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Gf wants a 30k ring. Says she'd be unhappy with anything less. Both24 yrs. I love her a ton, just wish she valued our future more then a diamond. Advice on how to talk to her?Or am I wrong here?

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I spent 28k around your age and lost it in the divorce.... the engagement ring is a gift. It helped pay her legal fees.... rings are temporary tattoos however... that says permanent love and you can sell it as a safety net that can't be taken off while your traveling... prenups only help to a certain extent... keep separate bank accounts and be able to directly trace where all pre marital assets go... my advice is start listening to Tom Leykis religiously.

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Who cares is she has an amazing job? Let her buy a $30k ring herself then. I see so many guys ignore red flags like this and marry the wrong girl. I don't get it. Successful female SM married to an SM here. I love diamonds and nice things but what she wants is a status symbol, NOT a marriage. After the engagement will come the wedding to the tune of $100k+ (because it's "her day"🙄) and the honeymoon somewhere exotic (French Polynesia, as an example will run well over $20k) and then she'll set her sights on the next thing she wants to show off to her friends. Run, don't walk. Also, you're 24 - there is no rush.

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Get a new gf

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I'm 25 and make 100k more than my boyfriend. I would marry him if he proposed with a ring pop. Get a new girlfriend.

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The bigger issue here is that it sounds like you have different values

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Dump her.

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I work for BCG and he's a public school science teacher.

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Where do I find a girl like C1

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Get a fake diamond. She will never know. Only jewelers can tell. Just put it in a Tiffany's box so her basic ass will get all excited. Ugh. Women.

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🖐🏼 NOPE Nope nope (nope)...

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K2, she's not just a girl. That's a damn woman.

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Then she can afford her own damn ring.

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Not wrong. Fix this NOW or move on (as hard as it may be). Divergent financial and basic values a BIG reason for marital harmony. But getting her something nice that shows you value her will go a long way. But 30k seems a stretch! Married female speaking.

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🚨 🚨 🚨

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Also don't get married at 24. Please. I beg you. Wait.

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How is this the first time you've seen greedy traits? Was the 🐈 made of gold?

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After that 30 k ring, where does it end? 100 k car? 2 mm home? Might be good to have a discussion with her now

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I ain't sayin' she a golddigger...

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24 isn't too young. Completely depends on level of commitment and maturity.

That said, an insistence on a ring of X value is not a sign of emotional maturity. Kids and finances are the biggest stresses in a marriage. You need to be on the same page.

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Cool chicks exist, I promise. Go find them. 😎

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C1 what the hell are you doing so well (or your bf doing so poorly...) that you can possibly be making that much more at 25?

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whatever you do, if you decide to marry this girl, get a pre-nup.

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