Girlfriend broke up with me because as she said "I feel like I have to box myself into your life Friday's through Sunday" anyone else have relationships ruined by travel?

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That sucks. But you know what - just shows she's needy and couldn't handle it.

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My wife and I had a long and serious conversation before I left industry. It was tough, but you make it work. 10 years later and we actually look forward to the opportunity to "miss" each other.

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Yup.

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Wow - my dream is to have a bf boxed into fri - sun. For the record, the weekend bf idea was mine 😁

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1 year into dating my fiancé we had a rough spot when dealing with the travel and really long hours. Even when I was home, I would often have to jump on my computer in the evenings or over the weekend to deal with another request. I realized I wasn't happy either and I needed to find more time for not only our relationship but also some fun/hobbies.

Over time, I got better about saying no and managing my time. It's not always easy but it's good to have someone who can remind you that working until midnight and every weekend is not normal and not sustainable.

I think it's good to have someone outside of consulting who has a different perspective. I think it helps balance us both.

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A1, spot on. I find that if I work out of home for 2 weeks in a row, we don't miss each other that much any more :)

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OP they have to live it to understand how difficult it is to live it. Gotta choose what's important in life and don't look back

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It's just shitty because when you start dating someone you have these conversations about what your job is like and they're cool with it. And then they start to live it and they do a 180

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I'm pretty sure I'm gonna date someone who is also a consultant or someone who enjoys personal space as much as I do....maybe they will be more understanding of our work lifestyle?

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^definitely a Deloitte comment

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Same A1...it's tough but in my opinion worth it

My gf prefers it. She's very independent and actually loves that I travel for work. And no, she's not booking up with someone else while I'm away.

The thing is before I did this I was with a start-up working 7am - 9pm every day anyway. So whether I'm flying away or in the office I'm not very available during the week. So when I framed it that way, the wife understood.

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