{ "media_type": "text", "post_content": "Girlfriends mother attempted suicide last Friday (didn’t go through). We are long distance and she had panic attacks all weekend before calling me today to break up with me. I had no idea. Said she doesn’t have emotional capacity to be in a relationship. Not looking for advice, just heartbroken for her and for our relationship. I loved her more than I’ve ever loved anyone in my life and she pushed me away 😞", "post_id": "616e5c1e55744d0031ef81ed", "reply_count": 15, "vote_count": 20, "bowl_id": "5e8656b80bdab1002a7355dc", "bowl_name": "Confession " }

Girlfriends mother attempted suicide last Friday (didn’t go through). We are long distance and she had panic attacks all weekend before calling me today to break up with me. I had no idea. Said she doesn’t have emotional capacity to be in a relationship. Not looking for advice, just heartbroken for her and for our relationship. I loved her more than I’ve ever loved anyone in my life and she pushed me away 😞

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I'm so sorry - for you, for her & her mom.

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Thank you

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I think you need to give her some space to process all of her emotions. Give her the space to breathe but also let her know that you are there for her emotionally.

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Agreed here. Really nice seeing this

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Oh, honey. I’m so so sorry. 😢 If it helps any, I met the love of my life after my biggest heartbreak. I thought I’d never love like that again but it turned out that relationship was just preparing me for my forever. Sending hugs! 🤗

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Thank you very much

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Whatever you do, don’t react irrationally, as hurt as you might be. This is a delicate thing. Make sure she knows you’re there for here however she needs/wants; but don’t overcrowd her in the slightest, while she has her hands full with another overwhelming emotional crisis. If you love her, give her the benefit of the doubt and see if she might come back after while and say she didn’t mean she really wanted to break up. Traumatic things make people react all kinds of unpredictable ways, and they’re allowed a lot of grace in those moments. I can’t imagine what she’s feeling during such a devastation. My heart breaks for her, her mother especially, and yourself. I’m so sorry for your grief. I hope that Love wins for each of you. 💙💙

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Yes I agree - the relationship may not be completely over, she just doesn’t have the capacity for it while she grieves. Be there for her and give it some time and then you can tell her how much she means to you and see if she’s open to getting back together.

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Hug from a stranger, just in case that helps. Sorry for all of you; hope it gets better for each.

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I am so sorry you’re are going through this. I went through something similar last year. Together for two and half yrs and her life was out of control so she left. I will disagree with everyone here. Take care of yourself and if she comes back, she comes back. But move on with your life and find things to do that make you happy. This is incredibly important. I didn’t and feel into a deep hole filled with depression, suicidal thoughts and huge amounts of anxiety, which has affected my job and now I am a few weeks to getting released. Please, please take care of yourself. She made her decision and you need to live

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Same thing happened to me. The guy I was seeing had a severe panic attack and was hospitalized over night. The first two months together were amazing. However, as those episodes became more frequent. He started becoming emotionally unavailable and avoided all deep discussions. He eventually broke up with me citing that he had too much going on and couldn’t figure out his life. I encouraged him to see a therapist. The best you can do is to offer support for something who is going through this. A great relationship is more than the right person. It is also about the right timing.

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I will say go support her, talk to her say you here say friend not bf, it seen she need support more than ever.

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You're not alone in the whole "suicidal mother of my girlfriend" thing. It drains you having to deal with that. We're here with you, OP

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There plenty more fish in the bowl- no pun intended- when one door closes a better one will open 4 u!

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It's a tragedy all around OP.

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