Giving notice at my toxic job without anything else lined up today 😬 wish me luck. I’m giving one month since they ask for that when people leave (again, toxic). Please share happy stories of quitting without another job - I’m so nervous but it’s what I need for my mental health.

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I don’t have any stories for you because I’ve never had the courage you’ve displayed. But I just want to say that I am SO PROUD OF YOU and that good things will come your way.

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Thank you so much - I needed to hear that

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My best friend quit her investment banking job with nothing lined up for the same reason. Literally was overworked and was just miserable. She found a job about 2 months later and is now the happiest person ever! I know this was probably tough, but good for you 😊 enjoy your time!

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I'd give them a week and bounce. Save yourself.

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Definitely. No more than 2 weeks! They would let you go in a heartbeat if the business was struggling

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I did this, and it was the best thing I could have ever done for my mental, emotional and physical health. I resigned, took several months off (including 8 weeks of no active searching to just decompress), and found a role with really minimal effort back in 2018 that was way easier than my previous job and 40% more pay. It was a good stepping stone - I stayed for 18 months, and started searching for a new role with a better culture about 9 mos in, which allowed me to be really choosy and selective to find a fantastic position, team and company.

Take some time to separate and recenter, and then treat your search like your job when you’re ready to engage again… but trust your gut and take the time you need. Good talent is a hot commodity these days, so you’ll find something better! Just get clear on what you want/need, what you will/won’t compromise on, remember you are interviewing them for a good fit as much as they’re interviewing you bc you bring so much to the table, and make sure you have a really strong narrative bridging your past role to break/reset to new role. (DM me if you want to chat further about that and how I made my compelling)

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This was so helpful and empowering. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this.

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I'd suggest 2 weeks which is considered the average time for knowledge transfer to whoever is taking over for you temporarily.

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Had a friend who left a very toxic job last year with nothing lined up. She bounced right back a few months later with a sweet new gig and a cute new bf to boot.

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I did the same thing 5 years ago for my own mental health. A few leaders I was close with kept asking me where I was leaving to and it made me feel inadequate like I should’ve had another thing lined up. But I didn’t and I wanted to take some time off to volunteer and travel. Took a year off sabbatical at 26Yo until I was ready again and those were the BEST decisions I’ve ever made :) you can do it. So proud of you for putting yourself first. I also gave a months notice because I liked my leaders and team and it was a personal decision not to burn bridges and they were very kind about it.

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I actually got fired before I was going to quit, lmao.

A week after I got fired I started a new position with double the salary from my previous nasty ass place!! Good riddance.

It's scary but worth it. You won't know what your made of until all you have is hope.

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I left without anything lined up when I saw the sheer amount of projects coming up and didn't want to leave in the middle of them (which I would have done, as I really hated the job). No regrets on doing that. Spent the first few weeks after leaving just recovering from that job/burnout.

I do however regret jumping into my new role (started Monday). Should have held out longer for something better

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I quit a job I hated and I am such an anxious person I started crying when I told my boss. So at least you weren’t me. 🙃

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I cried too! Awk

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I did the same thing a few years back. Best decision I ever made. Though it paid off that I wasn’t a jerk in law school so I had a great network of people who put in good words with their firm and I’m incredibly grateful for them.

My best advice is to take a week or two and really decompress. Find nature, yoga, exercise, whatever it is to find your baseline again and really hit the network hard and start taking people out to coffee. I scariest part is not knowing and I promise you that you’ll look back and wish you took more time lol

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I’ve done it and it honestly made me feel better going in to interviews because I didn’t feel dread and the urgent need to leave my bad situation!

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A couple years ago my self employed parents closed their business and moved across the country with no jobs lined up to be closer to me and my siblings. It took a few months but they found solid jobs and it’s been 7/8 years and they’re loving that they made the move. It took them a few months because they were self employed and didn’t have as marketable skills as you probably have so I would say you’ll be totally fine. If you’ve never listened to the commencement speech by Steve Jobs, pull it up on YouTube. He talks about trusting whatever you believe in and how you can’t see how the dots will connect in the future but looking back you’ll be able to see how things lined up the way they’re supposed to! You got this!

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What type of digital marketing do you do? We’re hiring! 🙂

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Good for you OP! The job market is hot so you will find something soon

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I quit w/o a job lined up for toxic workplace reasons. Took a 2 month breather. Then put the word out to my network I was looking and was hired into a great gig a month later.

Everything will be ok. 🙌

Do brace yourself hiring in summer is usually slow unless someone just landed a new biz when. September it picks up.

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I have been there. I had no job, no plans, just needed my peace back. I quit and a month later founded @RevolutionCyber. We got a Fortune 500 client within months. So, go where your positive energy flows. 2.5 years later and I don’t regret it one minute.

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If you are in the US, you should walk out same day as resignation. I’d actually email so you have traceability and write the reasons as toxic environment that has impacted your well being. I would never give 4 weeks, at most 2 weeks out of courtesy if the environment was ok

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In our job if your a manager or above I think you should give 30 days to transition work and train replacements …. 2 weeks of it was toxic … but never had that experience at a Big4 yet….

I wanted to do this. I chickened out. I should have done it though. Good luck!

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So excited for you! I just did the same thing 4 months ago and am currently in the middle of week 4 at another job that has been a breath of fresh air.

I had been on an international assignment for a good number of years. In that time I got very seriously involved with a local and got engaged. Even though the work was killing me, I told management about my plans to stay and asked about whether or not there was a way to keep me in the country permanently. I had phenomenal relationships with our client and thought I'd be a great choice to manage the relationship long term. Coincidentally, at the same time, my direct report was rolling off the project, so I was promoted into their role and I was told they were trying to figure out how to keep me in the country permanently. They ended up coming back at me with some excuse about how I was contracted not making it possible and I basically had half a year left (which included the peak stress of the current project). Then I learned that the only 2 other higher ranking people in the office made their plans to move away in the peak disaster of the project. I felt like Ieadership took me for granted and thought I'd be happy to be a martyr until my contract ran out and then leave me to fend for myself. I still wanted to give them the benefit of the doubt and spoke to HR about my non-compete: surely if I rode out my contract and got them through this project, they'd let me loose so I could go work for our client or associated consulting company. Nope, got shut down.

So, I put in my 4 weeks notice. They had to bring in 4 people to take over my duties.

It had to be 4 weeks according to company policy to get my unused vacation paid out, and they even tried to get me to stay longer. Spent two months focusing on my mental and physical health before landing a job in the middle of month 3 with a permanent contract in the country I'm in.

If you've got the funds to support yourself for a few months, DO IT. The feeling is amazing. Hang in there. It'll be your success story next!

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