Going through a divorce and it is impacting my performance at work. How do I deal with this?

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Take a break... Like for 1-2 months and go our exploring.. vacation helps.

Or... Focussing on work also helps...


Anyway ou are losing her, have utmost focus on your work and carry a smile no matter to not loose this Job.


It's very much understandable that you're going through a rough patch right now. Does your manager know about this? I am sure your co-workers would understand your situation. Sending you virtual hugs (with consent) and comfort.

It's hard to separate your work from your personal life when your personal life also impacts the way you work. I think it would be best if you could take counselling for that. I'm worried if the feeling gets worse that you wont be able to work at all. But regardless, I hope you get better mentally and emotionally. It is okay to break down sometimes. You are valid. Hugs!

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