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Going through a tough time personally. Spouse wanted to stop working when we moved here with our kid. Had troubled times back home as we were staying with our parents. Was hoping things would go back to normal here. But the streak seems to continue. Fed up of the daily fights and now I am thinking of separating. But it worries me that my spouse not working may put her down even if I support financially. Worried about my daughter if we separate. Any inputs from folks who faced something lik this?

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Let’s get separation out of the picture. Don’t even mention it to your spouse. Think of the underlying issues and write em all down. Is it financial? Is it personality - if yes, what traits irk you?

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Sounds like you should explore couples counseling. It will give you a chance to work through the vote issues and determine what you can do to save your relationship.

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Concerned that counseling will become another mudslinging session with accusations and complaints, and worsen the situation.

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It would be unfair to take an extreme step with lifelong impact to everyone without trying counseling. It doesn't work for everybody and like anything is dependent on the motivations of the participants. But because it can work, it should be explored.

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Op its a typical Indian mindset to only see things in binary and in extreme. While things are not working out, dont brush off other people here suggesting counseling. You need to have a desire to fix things and work at it , if you dont - you clearly have made up your mind

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