Going through family emergency but family member is refusing help (addiction) - should I just take PTO vs. leave of absence? Really worried and don’t know where to go

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Sorry don't know the answer to your question but wanted to send support for you and hope it all turns out ok

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OP, please keep in mind that addicts won’t get better until they are ready themselves to get better. If they’re not 100% vested in becoming healthier and kicking their addiction, it won’t work. I know this from personal experience.

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Talk to HR & project leadership. There may be alternatives to using PTO. Also good for leadership to be aware of what’s going on in case you need to make urgent calls/trips. All the best to you and your family!

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You may want to find a treatment center in the area to speak with to get some advice on how to approach the family remember better. That may also help you get a sense for how much time you'll need off to help you in planning. Good luck!

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Thank you so much - it has been really hard and has fractured my family. Luckily the family members I am still close with and my GF have been very supportive. Really sucks especially given the holidays so close.

Completely depends on the situation.

Agreed, contact HR, I believe most companies have other networks or benefits for this sort of issue.

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Call HR - you can ask the general info line what the practice / policy is without giving your name. I’d use leave unless you’re expecting a kid sometime soon.

Many companies have leave policies to take care of family members - look into that, you shouldn’t spend pto on this. Good luck, sending you all the hugs!

Second D1. Good luck!

Just let HR know and do what you need for your fam. Work will always be there ... if anything, Deloitte’s hiring :)

OP would be helpful to know who you work for so people can advise based on the leave vs PTO particulars of your firm.

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