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Going to serve my wife with divorce papers tomorrow. Any advice?

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@SC2 my comment was in the form of a question not a statement. Having been there myself as you have been, it does take two to tango. Not knowing what OP has or has not done leaves a lot of gaps. Irrespective of that, it's immaterial at this point since papers are in hand and it sounds as if 1 foot is out the door and it's a done deal. My comment is for the sake of the kids and the holiday magic as one said, put it off if possible and wait if he is decided this is final. If not, then explore options if both are willing. OP best of luck to you. No easy shoes to be in for sure.

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Maybe this could wait until after the holidays but I am not an advocate for staying together "for the kids." It just subjects the kids to bearing witness to an unhealthy marriage and influences their own future relationships in very negative ways. My parents stayed married far longer than they should have and it was for the good of no one. Maybe OP is trolling (shudder to think there is someone who would make this up for his own amusement) but if he isn't, can't we all agree the wife might be better off without him?

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"Daddy blindsided mommy with divorce papers" is a bad narrative now, and for when they are older

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How does she have no idea?

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This is literally the most selfish shit I have ever seen. Op doesn't give a fuck about his kids or his wife. I hope she takes you for everything and Christmas is ruined for you forever. Dick.

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Why are there so many posts like this where OP will ask for advice but barely give any info? A bunch of replies of people asking questions and OP only trickles information ("told her to update her resume" wtf lol)

If you need advice then give us some context

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@OP - sounds like a bad move. Serving papers should never be a surprise. You should have this discussion with her and spend the holiday time to figure out how this will work. Suggest you let her know that this is what you want, and jointly decide how you will tell the kids. The papers is just a formality- the process should occur at home ahead of time. Unless you really don't care about the kids then do you bro. If it's really just the bitching - I would imagine it's because of your damn job. And if its because of your job, shame on you for picking that over your family. Fuck everyone else but I am judging. I have 2 kids and go through fare share of fighting and good times. But I at least understand where my wife is coming from and why she is upset. But we communicate to figure it out. Sounds like if your reason is just bitching from your wife - we don't know what she bitches about. You really need to note make hasty decisions that you can't take back. Take some time for yourself, alone and think about it. Talk to your wife that you are at wits end and cannot do this any longer. Once you guys have this talk - be a fucking adult and do it as gently as you can for your kids. Don't be a piece of shit to your kids. Be a father and a Dad that they call you and not a consultant dick. Good luck, but I don't feel for you because you have timed this wrong and are totally taking the asshole approach. And then asking a community of predominantly low 20 year olds about if it's ok? Don't be stupid... be an adult and man the fuck up. Thanks for starting my Monday morning on this note. I hope it wakes you up.

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Ouch....how does she have no idea.

Why didnt you hint at it

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Update her resume as to she has to find a job? A bit strange way to hint for divorce though. Anywho not judging cause don't know your story. It's really sad though. Stay strong! And be as nice and civil you can be about it. Bitterness will get you nowhere!

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And this ladies is why you always keep a job!

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Not in your shoes or know your situation. I have been there and divorced. It's harder with kids so I feel for you. It's Christmas. Give it till the 1st of the year for their sake and not placing a damper on the holiday. If you have gone this long suffering, a little longer won't make much of a difference for you but can make a difference on the kids. Good luck here not an easy situation to be in and I feel for you all. Kids always get the brunt of things and take it the hardest

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Hey OP, just my two cents, and I'm not going to judge, but my dad left my mom during the holidays when I was 7. My older brother was 10. I'm grown now, and I've forgiven it, but it was really traumatic. My relationship with my dad suffered for ~10 years. I didn't hug him until the day I left for college. I can't ever remember telling him I love him. We get along pretty well now, but it has been a slow, arduous process.
You do you, man, and make the choice that you think is right. But realize the impact that this will have on the kids, and don't underestimate the hurt this will bring into their lives. At such young ages this will change who they are as people (for the worse), and your relationship with them will never be the same.

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Give some notice?

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Damn! To quote this forum "savage". Why would you serve your wife, the mother of your children, divorce papers two weeks before the holidays? Like thing about it...you're going to scar your kids for life! F'ing think about it? So selfish.

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Wtf you're blindsiding your family (and young kids) before Xmas?! You're a piece of shit, OP. Maybe this is all for the best because your family deserves better.

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Does she know it's coming?

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Plot twist - OP doesn't celebrate Christmas

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Lol... "Update your resume" = "I'm divorcing you"? Teach me more, OP.

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lol I love reading stories like this and then hearing about how gay marriage is going to ruin the sanctity of marriage. You keep doing you, op 👍

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Wait.. Is she like a stay home mom? Have you two not spoken about a divorce or even separating first? This sounds all kinds of messy.

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