Asian Consulting Bowl

Got a really nice salary bump recently. However, I am reluctant to share the good news with parents of how big the bump is due to our culture.

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You can also just not share...you don’t share everything with your friends and your parents don’t have be your best friends in almost every scenario.

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Or, here’s an idea: Stop with the financial support. Just stop. Filial piety is what stops our people from building generational wealth.

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My parents sacrificed everything so I could get the best education and be put in a position to succeed. Half the kids from my class in elementary school are unemployed and god knows what they do in their lives. I give them 20% of my net salary every month and that was my condition to my partner. I’m fortunate enough to make enough that 80% of my salary is still very comfortable for me and my family. Each situation is different but personally I believe in giving back - especially to family That being said, it is very important to be doing this voluntarily as opposed to out of parental expectation! OP go have a chat with parents and work out why they have this expectation

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@M1 - actually Asian Americans have higher household wealth than all other groups. The older generations save at high levels and pass that on.

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Why? I would share and they’d be proud

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OP - second part is def always true. "Dad, I got a raise to $XXX, but don't tell Uncle So and So, okay?". "Okay, la!" Christmas party. Says all your cousins: "So... I hear you got a raise. When you taking us out?" 🤦‍♂️

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