Got a really nice salary bump recently. However, I am reluctant to share the good news with parents of how big the bump is due to our culture.
You can also just not share...you don’t share everything with your friends and your parents don’t have be your best friends in almost every scenario.
Or, here’s an idea: Stop with the financial support. Just stop.
Filial piety is what stops our people from building generational wealth.
My parents sacrificed everything so I could get the best education and be put in a position to succeed. Half the kids from my class in elementary school are unemployed and god knows what they do in their lives.
I give them 20% of my net salary every month and that was my condition to my partner.
I’m fortunate enough to make enough that 80% of my salary is still very comfortable for me and my family. Each situation is different but personally I believe in giving back - especially to family
That being said, it is very important to be doing this voluntarily as opposed to out of parental expectation! OP go have a chat with parents and work out why they have this expectation
@M1 - actually Asian Americans have higher household wealth than all other groups. The older generations save at high levels and pass that on.
Why? I would share and they’d be proud
OP - second part is def always true. "Dad, I got a raise to $XXX, but don't tell Uncle So and So, okay?". "Okay, la!"
Christmas party. Says all your cousins: "So... I hear you got a raise. When you taking us out?" 🤦♂️
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