Got an “i had a dream about you” text from a guy i was talking to/dating when i was still playing the field. We stopped talking because he decided i was cheating (assumed exclusivity with no discussion) around the same time i decided he wouldn’t work out long term (too much difference in communication/goals). I’m official/DTR with someone else now. Honestly he is a nice guy that i would be friends with but also not into false hope/slippery slopes. Thoughts on opening up friendly correspondence?

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I think it’s kinda creepy that he’s texting you that to begin with. Why not just ask what’s up/how you’re doing? Any more details about what the “dream” involved? Decent chance that it was somewhat sexual, which makes me wonder if he’d be up for the friendship, but regardless, if you like the person you’re with, be upfront and blunt that you’re with someone now but that you’d be up for having this friendship and nothing more

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Sounds like he’s reaching. After the cheating accusation/one sided assessment of you, sounds desperate for attention.

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Don’t do it because you would just prove his assumptions about you right. You’re already in an official relationship with someone else.

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