Got ghosted for the second time in a row by two different guys. How do you guys deal with the dating app culture of ghosting? Why can’t people just communicate like adults?

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at
Highlighted IconHIGHLIGHTED

I lowered my expectations completely. Like 100% zero expectation.

likesmart

@ey - throwing out the truth bombs here. I love that you have turned the ghosting on them by saying buh-bye.

OP - I feel you. To the core. It’s hard to not get invested at least a little because theoretically that’s why we’re on a dating app. Which makes the ghosting feel worse. But you’re not unlovable, you just haven’t found the person who deserves to love you. Someone told me they go into every date with the mindset that they are ‘the one’ and if it doesn’t work out, that person wasn’t ready.

like

So exhausting. I actually thought that I had found a good one, we were together for a year and a half, and then he ghosted right before we went on vacation together 🙄

I have definitely lowered my expectations about some things, but, like EY said, I don’t put up with BS. if there are bad behaviors, I’m out. It means I go on more first dates, then I’d like, but I don’t wanna tolerate nonsense.

like

Sure where to?

like
Recent IconRecent

I got off the apps but also haven’t met anyone since getting off the app. It’s a lose-lose situation so you have to pick which battle you rather fight.

I also would take the ghosting with a grain of salt. At the end of the day, I really think it’s not anything personal. People just have different intentions than others when it comes to why they’re on there to begin with.

like

Same here! Been off the apps for 2 years, haven’t met anyone. I think it’s bc people don’t really ask people out in real life anymore. They have way more courage behind the screen.

It’s awful. As others have said, my expectations are under the basement. I cut guys off very quickly if I see bad behaviors. I don’t ghost but I don’t tolerate being jerked around either. There is always a queue of guys to work through. All I want is one good man so it’s exhausting.

like

I don’t know if it’s ghosting but I would say about 12 guys I went out with in the last year did not follow up whatsoever after first dates. This is in a big city, never really happened in the small city I was before. I swear I am a normal, attractive, intelligent person. I have no idea what’s going on and I am basically not going out with anyone until I feel better about the situation 😂🥴

like

Associate, I agree. Except I struggled to meet men in my previous (smaller) city with whom I had anything in common. God knows I tried, I went on hundreds of dates. Just didn’t connect with most men, who just had pretty small worlds. Bigger city did solve that issue.

Got off the apps, met my SO in real life

like

All due respect, I have had plenty of “real life” disasters too 😕 Starting with the guy last year who I met in my neighborhood - all my friends thought he was great- and everything was cool until he ghosted me before we were supposed to go to Aspen, a trip that was mostly on my credit card. So, I’m with you that real life is great, but I have concluded there’s no perfect solution 🥹

You need to increase the number of men on your roster. But it does suck and it’s exhausting

Related Posts

How is Azure Devops team in Microsoft?
How is the work culture and all?
Which are the best software teams in Microsoft for Hyderabad location in terms of learning and career growth?
If anyone know anything please share.

Thanks

likeuplifting

Has anyone else had a really hard time online dating with Covid? I’m aware things are getting better but I prefer to do outdoor first dates to be on the safe side. No judgement to anyone that does differently. It’s just what I feel comfortable with. I’ve had a few guys tell me they won’t do outdoor dates for some reason… some have cited weather but others legit say no (in 70 weather) because it’s a hassle & “Covid is a joke.” Please tell me if this is normal.

like

Can someone help me understand the pros and cons of MBB vs PE Ops (at A MF, think BS, KKR etc)? I'm looking into in terms of WLB, culture, personal growth, hierarchical-ness, comp, calibre (and attitude) of colleagues, respect (vs deals colleagues) etc.

like

Hello fishes

Could you please provide feedback on below companies and their work culture for a Java Developer

UST Global
T System
Yoe: 5.5 years


UST global offering 2.5 lakh more than T system

What are the rules about dating someone that works for your audit client?

likesmart

Thoughts on Platinum Equity vs Parthenon Capital for a PE ops role? Work Culture, Comp, WLB.

like

Rubenstein PR reached out to me for a position. How’s the culture? Any experiences to share? Plz and thx you!

28F looking to move to SD in the next 6 months from DC and wondering what dating in San Diego is like?

like

How much does deloitte US offers an analyst working on Oracle with 2years of experience in SFO? Also, Is there hybrid work culture promoted or one has to go to office on daily basis?

like

Does pwc act/sdc management consulting also has an up/out culture and what are the general hours in management consulting finance?

like

PwC or Strategy&.
What are the differences? Which has the better workplace culture, more interesting projects, etc.? Is one considered an advisory verses consulting practice?

like

What’s your take on Lydecker? What is the culture? Market salary? Expectation on billable hours? Mentorship? Etc.?

like

What’s dating like in nyc for someone in their mid-30s?

I’m starting to date after the end of a 15 year relationship (ended a few months before covid) so all this is fairly new to me.

like

We were going to go on a hike and had a hotel booked for a night. Texted him 5 min before arrival and when i was there to pick him up. He hopped in the shower. I got annoyed that he did that because i communicated beforehand to be ready. He didnt like that and said that he thinks that i think my time is more important than his... he canceled the trip and we are not speaking because of this incident... Am i crazy or something?

likesmartfunny

Any recommendations for an anime from the manga? I recently saw the whole Naruto saga, and I have to say that I underestimated this genre a lot. I am a producer, and thanks to this my mind has been totally opened. Now I want more knowledge about this culture.

like

What are some good product based companies to work as Data Engineer?
Good in terms of learning, interesting work and good work culture.

like

Wunderman Thompson NY, how’s WLB, culture, learning/promotion opportunities?

like

Anyone know about vibes / culture / working at Spotify?

like

Would you feel comfortable telling HR that your service line’s culture sucks and name the individuals who cause it? Or is a better approach saying it’s the leadership in general creating a negative and toxic culture? How effective are these conversations really? Trying to assess if there’s any point in bringing this up. Obviously HR works for the company and an employee sharing their thoughts on the unsupportive, cold leaders could bite me in the long run.

like

More Posts

Watching the RNC for the jokers.... Nikki Haley is giving me heartburn, someone get rid of her

likehelpful

Electrical & mechanical engineering interns needed for our SF office. DM to discuss a potential referral 🚀

like

Recommendations on local Austin sites for home search we are looking to find a rental for 6 months for ex. Sulekha in northeast is pretty common among Indians. Interested in condo/house type living arrangement v/s renting with apartments.

London: possible to negotiate no/a reduced probation period while lateralling?

like

I work for a fairly small company. We have had a lot of growth recently. I made a comment that I was not happy with the company culture. The CEO wants to meet. We have a good relationship. My question is…should I send a email with specific examples ahead of time or just keep it as an “on the fly” convo?

like

Hey fishes, I am looking for someone to refer me in Deloitte . I have 8.5 yrs of experience in Java, Spring, Rest web services, Microservices and SQL server.

like

Traveling in a few weeks. Usually rock a $1k sports watch but thinking of wearing my Rolex this time. Pros and cons of traveling with an expensive watch? Take both? Or stick with sports watch?

like

Hey designers! I’m currently in the process of getting a new wfh set up and was curious to see how everyone’s current setups look 😊

like

Favorite December vacation spots in North America?

like

Anybody else have ETH transactions still pending from last week?

Anyone exit to corporate VC? If so, what level did you exit and what type of experience/academic background did you have?

like

Hi friends,

Just getting this feeling that QA job role is not a dignified role. Its considered low in heairarchy as compared other roles.

Is it true for you as well or its just my misunderstanding?

like

Anyone have a good turnip price and willing to let me visit their island?

like

Is it normal for brand side to be less process focused? Genuinely think agencies I’ve been at prior had to function like an assembly line in some way for accounts to be justified. But I liked this, holds everyone accountable.

Brand side seems so “chill” but like too chill.

like

What is the least annoying way to network? I was laid off recently and am trying out the whole freelance thing. I planned a trip next month to LA but it seems so forced to ask creatives out for coffee

like

I’m very close with my team, would you ever tell your current manager, that are you are applying for other jobs? I have a desire for a new role, not a new team, and found a company that I’m super interested in and now they asked me for references. I’m not sure who to ask other than my colleagues, advice?

Hello fishes! Looking for some guidance on Oyo rooms interview. The hr gave me a brief idea on the rounds which in total is 5. Any tips, ideas, kind of questions asked..your experience, anything is welcome! Help a fellow techie!

Thank you!

like

Praying layoffs do happen so I can stop seeing the same post here everyday 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿.

funnylike

The recession seems scary!

like

Hi folks..i am from sales and account management experience. I am looking to move to product management and engineering in Google/ twitter/ Microsoft/meta.
What's the right steps and is it possible?

like

Additional Posts in Women In Consulting

Any tips on insomnia? I have trouble falling and staying asleep. I was up till 4am last night and 3am the night before and here I am wide awake again (and i’m not on my phone the whole time, i’ll pick it up after a couple hours bc I’m so bored). It doesn’t help that my husband can literally fall asleep in seconds and snores so loud. He is even sleeping in the guest room tonight bc I have an impt meeting in morning but I still can’t fall asleep. Even took a melatonin a couple hours ago. Help!!!

likehelpful

South Asian ladies in this bowl, long shot but do y'all have any single brother older than 33 that are looking to date / settle down? Bonus points if Gujarati 🤗☺️

likefunnysmart

Devastated...breaking up w SA after 4 years together right as I thought we were planning for marriage..hate the monster dating game

Trying to get a 45 y/o sibling in to consulting (was an entrepreneur prior in the restaurant industry). No college degree but willing to bust his butt to learn. Books/online courses recommended pls

like

Breakups: ladies have you ever left a relationship while the SO didn’t do anything wrong? I just feel he isn’t the right one for me after moving in for half a year now. I think ending things is the fair thing to do, but I’m bogged down by the logistics (moving out/ dividing our things/ making sure he has a place to move to, etc). The key thing is he didn’t do anything wrong or fail me, he just can’t support me emotionally and communicate in a way I know I deserve

like

Hi ladies! Need your opinion and advice on a slightly awkward topic
I recently started dating this guy. He is really good in bed (well endowed, good stamina, great foreplay, etc). But he doesn’t cum after sex. Our sex routine normally ends at either of us getting tired after a long run but not him cuming. We’ve been together for the last 4-5 days and have done it many times (early phases of a relationship). And he came only once.
Is this something I should be worried about? Does this mean

like

Does anyone use numbing cream before a Brazilian? Is it unsafe to use to in any way other than not being able to feel the temperature of the wax?

like

Looking to continue my career abroad after growing up/starting my career in the US. Does anyone have any tips on how to land a job in the UK or Australia as a US citizen?

like

I got to know someone thru work, and flirted a bit over 1 week. Then we never spoke again because of work geography. He reached out this week after 9 months+ asking for a visa sponsor to take a vacay in my country (given mobility restriction these days), and asked me to hook him up with a business visa referral letter thru my connections. He also said he’s coming with gf. I said im happy to write him a personal reference letter, but wont be able to get him a business one. Is this rude?

like

Ladies summer is approaching and that means it’s time for a comp thread! What is your base compensation, years of experience and education level? We have to stay competitive!!!

likeuplifting

Ladies would you purchase a home with a boyfriend or would you rather get married first?

like

Do any of you ladies have in-laws who live close by & insert themselves into your lives ALL THE TIME? I feel so overwhelmed by them, but my husband thinks it’s NBD. (Continued)

In need of some positivity…what’s one thing you’re looking forward to?

like

Ladies - for those of you that bought property on your own before you got married - what did you do with it after marriage? Sell, rent, move in there, change to joint ownership with your partner?

like

Friday night check - in! How’s everyone feeling? I have another couple hours of work then I will get in a workout + wine to unwind, then see what’s on Netflix. Bummed that my online orders didn’t make it by end of business week to cheer me up!

like

Is it generally unwise to switch companies within a year? I just relocated back to hometown and started a new job 6 months ago but I want to relocate again to Atlanta when my lease is up in 6 months. I don’t have much problem with my current role except wanting more money and to relocate. Unsure if it’s worth it to move and get more money or if it’ll be a bad look on my part. Any advice welcomed.

like

So I’m an undergrad starting as an associate in consulting at PwC without a business background, I have really strong clinical knowledge and have been hired for healthcare consulting but I honestly don’t know the basics of accounting/finance/data analytics. I feel way over my head, any tips on how to give myself working knowledge or books I could read would be GREATLY appreciated!

like

Feel like I’ve lost the pulse on my team… it’s like I’ve become a has-been. 😅 is it normal to feel this way in consulting? Especially with the constant influx of new, hungry consultants? How have you all “kept up”?

like

Looking for hair product recommendations! I’ve never really done much besides typical shampoo and conditioner, and I’m sick of my hair being frizzy and dry (photo in comments)

like

Anyone here ever stop blonde highlighting their dark blonde/light brown hair and go back to natural color? Tired of blonde turning brassy and want to go to a more natural color. Transition tips?

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Send download link to your phone

OR

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Messaging rates may apply

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal