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I lowered my expectations completely. Like 100% zero expectation.
@ey - throwing out the truth bombs here. I love that you have turned the ghosting on them by saying buh-bye.
OP - I feel you. To the core. It’s hard to not get invested at least a little because theoretically that’s why we’re on a dating app. Which makes the ghosting feel worse. But you’re not unlovable, you just haven’t found the person who deserves to love you. Someone told me they go into every date with the mindset that they are ‘the one’ and if it doesn’t work out, that person wasn’t ready.
So exhausting. I actually thought that I had found a good one, we were together for a year and a half, and then he ghosted right before we went on vacation together 🙄
I have definitely lowered my expectations about some things, but, like EY said, I don’t put up with BS. if there are bad behaviors, I’m out. It means I go on more first dates, then I’d like, but I don’t wanna tolerate nonsense.
Sure where to?
I got off the apps but also haven’t met anyone since getting off the app. It’s a lose-lose situation so you have to pick which battle you rather fight.
I also would take the ghosting with a grain of salt. At the end of the day, I really think it’s not anything personal. People just have different intentions than others when it comes to why they’re on there to begin with.
Same here! Been off the apps for 2 years, haven’t met anyone. I think it’s bc people don’t really ask people out in real life anymore. They have way more courage behind the screen.
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It’s awful. As others have said, my expectations are under the basement. I cut guys off very quickly if I see bad behaviors. I don’t ghost but I don’t tolerate being jerked around either. There is always a queue of guys to work through. All I want is one good man so it’s exhausting.
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I don’t know if it’s ghosting but I would say about 12 guys I went out with in the last year did not follow up whatsoever after first dates. This is in a big city, never really happened in the small city I was before. I swear I am a normal, attractive, intelligent person. I have no idea what’s going on and I am basically not going out with anyone until I feel better about the situation 😂🥴
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Associate, I agree. Except I struggled to meet men in my previous (smaller) city with whom I had anything in common. God knows I tried, I went on hundreds of dates. Just didn’t connect with most men, who just had pretty small worlds. Bigger city did solve that issue.
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Got off the apps, met my SO in real life
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All due respect, I have had plenty of “real life” disasters too 😕 Starting with the guy last year who I met in my neighborhood - all my friends thought he was great- and everything was cool until he ghosted me before we were supposed to go to Aspen, a trip that was mostly on my credit card. So, I’m with you that real life is great, but I have concluded there’s no perfect solution 🥹
You need to increase the number of men on your roster. But it does suck and it’s exhausting