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Got married too early (6months) with a narcissist “love bomber”. Didn’t know what love bombing was, never had dated a narcissist before, and I thought I had found the one. I’m 4 months pregnant and

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Hey. I also had a rough childhood and have fallen into this trap/situation before. DM me and we can talk further. Also, im sorry you’re currently in this situation. Just remember that nothing is forever and nothing is insurmountable. You kick ass! You even work at a company that’s harder to get into than Harvard! You can do this even if it seems impossible.

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have a restraining order filed against my husband for safety reasons. I found him on tinder looking for hookups or the love of his life. While he is sending communications that he loves me and the baby, we are everything to him, and he wants to reconcile. Nobody ever cheated on me before this. On the other hand there are legal things that appear to be like a giant mountain. I am so lost. Too many unpredictable things on uncertain timelines. Internally, I’m still upset about the childhood trauma caused by my parents. I’ve worked so hard to get out of the pattern, did therapy, read a ton of books, really tried my best. Still fell into a wrong relationship that felt familiar, close, and special and I wonder if I can ever get away from this grip. I’m not 18. I’m in my mid-30’s. Feeling just hopeless.

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Totally my story too. I’m in leadership and a very successful single parent. You got this 😘 DM me if you need support

I was in your shoes not too long ago. You’re much wiser and stronger now. It gets better, I promise. Trusting my gut, having strong boundaries, and really learning to love my own company through tough times fostered a ton of growth. You got this. ♥️

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Sorry for what you are going through OP. I have experienced childhood issues with parents that have carried through in my adult life and relationships. Also divorced and know how difficult that is. Please feel free to DM even if you just want to vent. I'm sending you good vibes. This too shall pass and you will come out stronger.

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Wow this is intense. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, OP. Y’all, I think these love bombing / narcissistic tendencies describe me but it’s not who I want to be. The part about “low self-esteem” and “sense of self is determined by what others think of them” resonate particularly as the root of it. What can I do to change this? Not just the external interactions but the internal drivers

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It just sounds like you’ve developed non-ideal relationship habits.

sending hugs and prayers OP

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New to this term, can you elaborate on “love bomber” and the harms of it?

Thank you for sharing this. So sorry you’re going through such a difficult situation

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I have nothing to contribute here TBH but growing up in an single mother household makes me even more afraid of marriage especially hearing this. I'm sorry to hear OP and hoping very much you find a way out - trust that it won't be easy. sending my support ❤️

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