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Got out of a toxic relationship 5 months back (was trying for over a year). Took a break from dating to heal indefinitely. Feel myself being so closed/shut down to dating (mentally) and can’t let my guards down. Usually I am okay with the whole situation but some days (like today) are difficult.

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Be patient and gentle with yourself! There’s no timeline or predetermined path to healing from something like this. And kudos to you for posting here and not keeping it hidden 🤗

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Take your time. And don’t feel the pressure to be social if you want to be a hermit and wallow a bit by yourself right now. It gets better. No contact is key and in time you’ll be back to being yourself again. Hang in there.

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