Got to know someone I work with who's in an open/poly relationship. I like them, but don't know how to feel about their relationship status...

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It's not your relationship, so who cares?

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mind ya business.

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Wait...you like them, or you LIKE them? Like wanna date them? I'm reading this two different ways.

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Why does that matter?

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"I don't have a girlfriend. I just know someone who would be really pissed if they heard me say that."
--Mitch Hedberg

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MYOB

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Some clarification. I'm considering getting involved romantically. But the open partner thing is something I'm seeking to understand better

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Not your life. If you like hanging with them in the streets it doesn't matter what they do in the sheets.

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Wait, is this the same FCB who wanted to know why her Tinder date sent her JunkMail and then ghosted? This one leads quite the life.

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Yes yes I swiped out of curiosity once

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I admit it can be challenging when someone disregards such a longstanding cultural tradition like monogamy and sexual exclusivity. But hey you only go around once!
And if you think about it, it could relieve. Lot of the pressures of an LTR while potentially keeping the initial relationship intact and loving.

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@OP you wont find the answers you are looking for here ... really ask yourself if this is something you are fundamentally okay with or treat it as a fling with no strings

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^^^ Dude 😂😂😂😂😂

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Can we stop just f..king somebody "romantically" involved. To me that implies feelings too. If just doing it, you're sexually involved and that's that.
So what level/category of involvement are you considering? And can they reciprocate?
From what I understand, people in an open relationship do consider their main partner literally BAE and have strong feelings for them and the "open" part is purely about sex with others and maybe some common interests they share...

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OP, maybe they're just telling you that 'cause they want to f..k you, too. But have a serious SO they don't plan on leaving...

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Ah ...I get what you mean. Like he says "I'm poly but my wife doesn't actually know" 😂

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^if that's the case, run. That's bs and that is not a good person. Non-monogamy can work. I've done it. I've seen it work. If all parties involved are in the know and ok with it, it can really work.

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Poly is fine when it's healthy but I've seen many unhealthy poly relationships, where the partners believe they can fill in emotional gaps by adding other people into the mix. And unless you would consider being part of a triad, there's no real future in seeing someone that has a primary partner. So, if the relationship is good, it can be pretty disappointing when there's no where to take it.

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Fundamentally you have to be ok with sharing someone's affection and time if you get into a poly situation. If you can reconcile yourself with that, go free. If you're the jealous type ...think again

Plus, be upfront about what your long term goals are, like kids or what vet. if you have long term goals that they don't share it'll be bad. Or just be better in the sack and steal him away from her. That's probably where their relationship is headed anyway

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