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Great vibes with girl after 2nd date, definite potential for more. However, noticed that she adjusted her age by either 1 or 3 years on dating app, and just confronted her about it. She wrote it off due to Covid year, but I find the lack of honesty and real remorse concerning. What would you do?

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If she is dishonest about age, I can’t imagine what else she is dishonest about. I value honesty. Good luck, OP. This girl is a hard pass for me.

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Not saying this is right but guys do it with height and women do it with age to try and get around filters. People need to be less insecure but also less shallow. A woman over 30 and a man under 6ft can both be quality people.

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I’m 5’6” male and don’t lie about my height. Imma short king and I’m gonna own that and be honest. Women should do the same. I give honesty so obviously I expect the same

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Women get so much pressure around age, that’s why she probably felt self-conscious and changed it, especially if she’s over 30. 1-3 years is not a big deal IMO.

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I agreeeeeee but it’s still weird to change your age

You’re 2 dates in. You’re saying you’ve been 100% honest on everything?

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Agree with D1 and PA1. Being precise and being honest are not the same thing really.

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Guy I met initially had his age set to 30 yet he was 35. I’m assuming he was looking for much younger women. I asked why he had the wrong age on the app and he said he just wasn’t paying much attention. Fast forward things didn’t work out because he kept being deceptive in other things

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^ youre being very generous when you say “logic”

Women lie about their age and weight, men lie about their height and length. Tbh I give any dishonesty on the first date a pass and start keying in on if they are open and honest once they trust you enough to open up about their insecurities

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We all have insecurities—don’t write her off just yet. So long as she’s not lying about anything else I would find that cute personally

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I would call this a yellow flag. It’s something to keep in mind, but not necessarily a dealbreaker.

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Sounds totally fine to me - esp cause she admitted to it when you asked her about it

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Anything they lie on the profile is a 🚩

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I dislike people who lie about their age on dating apps to get around the filters that I have set. You don't get to tell me what age range I should date.

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3 dates in I realized the guy lied about his postgrad degree and smoking status. He turned out to have a bachelor’s (which is completely fine with me if he doesn’t lie) and smokes weed and vapes too. He didn’t think lying about all these was a big issue at all and was trying to gaslight me into “you are being dramatic”. Turned out he lied to get into military too. Just take this incident as an example OP. If they think lying about small things is okay, that’s not a small issue anymore, that’s about someone’s integrity and you might end up with much bigger issue and surprise soon

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It’s obviously something she’s insecure about. Don’t read too much into it. If this is what makes u not want to move forward then the vibes must not have been that great or u are reaching for a way to sabotage before it gets serious

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What app lets you adjust your bday?

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Good question 👌🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Red flag -a woman in my 30s

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How old is she?

As a woman around her age I kinda get it and don’t see it as a massive red flag like some of the others here. However, I’m reminded of a guy I dated who also lied about his age in his profile - and he turned out to be a liar in general, so maybe the others are right

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What if it was a genuine mistake? Also, why are you monitoring changes on her profile so closely 👀 If you like her, give it a chance.

How old are you A1?

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