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I’m sorry. I’m built much the same way, running and work are two of my favorite ways to get out of my head. I know it may not seem natural, but take a break, chill out - NO email. Maybe go on a yoga retreat or take a meditation course. I have found that I tend to treat others how I treat myself. I know it sounds silly, but taking the time to better care for myself has been a real game changer.

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