Had a hard day today, I openly questioned my reason for being at the firm to the MD. Anyways, here’s a little blip for Wednesday. Ollie is my emotional support animal.

I left my previous employer (of 15 yrs) because of the good o’boys club (you can join if you cheat on your wife, have zero accountability, a huge ego and nose up a VP’s ass). Some of the best competent people have left recently as a result. Now they’re constantly posting propaganda on LI pretending it’s a “fun & cool” place to work. It makes me want to throw up in my mouth. I was I could tell all the naive young millennials to run, as fast as they can or else they better watch their backs…

Alright, what do people write in their notice or farewell email if they're leaving because of a toxic culture? Obvious answer is leave it bland, but does anyone actually write anything beyond the bland, I resign blah blah?

I just started on a new team. I am so overwhelmed the team is all new. I feel I have to take on everything. Our strategy guy either hates me or is taking out his anger out on me. I’m so frustrated.

It’s review season and the imposter syndrome has never been more real. My managers said some nice things about me and I’m just ....genuinely surprised lol gotta work on my self confidence 😩

Final round with a MM PE Firm tomorrow vía zoom. Is suit expected given its zoom? Shirt with tie and jacket on the chair? Trimmed beard acceptable? I know I’m overthinking it but appreciate any feedback 😀

Can I be fired for constantly getting same feedback from my engagement managers that I need to pay attention to details? How do I improve on this?

How do you deal with a coworker you just simply don't like as a person?

What watch do you wear to work?

Could someone please suggest how to handle this situation?
My manager (Technology Director) sees me as an emerging thread to his position and stopped sharing details / trying to avoid including me in visible projects etc.,
FYI - His manager is the division head and Managing Director.
Why I think my manager tries to move me out?
- I am 18 YOE with a technically strong background
- Upper mgmt is starting to identify me as the backup for all systems. My manager tries to move me out since then

I love when I get a "thx" response, because what could be more heartfelt than those three letters after slaving away all night on a project.

⚠️Toxicity Alert ⚠️

My previous manager would track us by hours daily, made a fuss everytime anything stretched and guilt us for that and the unplanned leave too unless it was COVID. Hinted him a lot of time, this is problematic but apparently he considered it "standard practice for agile".

Now 8/10 teammates have switched within < 1 year of project start (6-7 months with him) which tbh had good work in our opinion and even team was fun to work with even though none of us ever met in person.

Good? Bad? Ugly?
How was your experience with a manager or supervisor of the opposite gender, that you would like to share?

What’s the consensus on tattoos in the insurance workplace? I’m in leadership and considering exploring my options due to recent personnel changes. I work remote and have arm sleeves, and any time I would be in-person I’d of course wear a long sleeve shirt to be professional, but worry about a cuff rolling up and tattoos being somewhat visible. Nothing is offensive by any means.

How do you handle working for 30 and 40 year olds who know less than you?

I always had a feeling my team didn’t like me as much as the other members on my team. Just found out that they’ve been having happy hour sessions and left me off the invite. 😪

A coworker (diff depts) and I realized we live in the same neighborhood after running into each other on the street. We started talking more in the office and he ended one convo with “we should get drinks sometime”. I gave him my number via slack and said to hit me up when he wants to get together. Hadn’t heard from him in a couple weeks then connected him to my friend who works for a company he’s trying to sell to. Then he asked if I’d set him up with my friend :( think I have any chance?

Had anyone flexed in streetwear for their consulting engagements? I occasionally wore my Yeezy Triple Black 350s with my suit to the office, then changed into dress shoes at the office 😂

Imagine you're looking for a remote job at a large company with a sophisticated marketing function, strong manager, and room for growth. Making good traction, but then you're contacted by a company in a niche that FASCINATES you...like you read books about this subject for fun, you'd probably love this job. It's remote, the salary is good, the manager is nice, but you'd be the most senior marketing person; the company is about 200 people. What would you do?

In negotiation for a Manager Role for BNY Mellon (grade K). Looking for some guidance on how hard I can push the issue with increasing my offer.
My convo with the HR recruiter was that he would push for $130k plus a sign on bonus. Offer is coming back at $125k with no bonus. Exiting my current position I'll be leaving a 3% pay increase, $12k bonus payout next month and full remote work on the table. Those considered it would be a lateral financial move for the 2023 year.

How much do y’all typically pay in rent?

I'd like to sell my condo in Central NJ but I've never done something like that before and feel a bit overwhelmed / intimidated by the process. Adding to the complexity, it's a deceased parent on the mortgage, not me. Is a realtor someone that can help? How do I find a good one?

I have 2 offers :
EY INDIA - 15 LPA FIXED + 2.2 L BONUS + 50K JB
LTI - 18 LPA FIXED + 1 L retirals + 75k JB

Which one should I join in terms of WLB, growth etc.
YOE - 3.2
Tech - Servicenow

Please suggest, it's URGENT!!!!

Anyone else feel very anxious? I am 8 weeks and struggling to even get out of bed because I am just so overwhelmed by general, non-baby focused anxiety. I feel like I’m losing my mind!

Should I use my HSA for pregnancy/birth costs (now) or keep it invested within the HSA for later down the line (retirement)? Spouse and I are both 32 and the balance is about 3k in HSA (We’ve been using it in the past).

Will we ever be properly represented on television?

Hoping to make the switch from London to the US, I’m a UK citizen. Seems most companies are stating that they won’t sponsor visas in their job postings. Currently no transfer opportunities globally on our internal systems either. Do you have any insight on why this might be / when companies may start sponsoring visas again? Thanks in advance!

Any recruiters who would like to connect with me? I am a real estate attorney located in LA hoping to make the switch from firm life to in house. Please message me.

Hi all, is it completely work from office for Tiger Analytics, or WFH is also allowed? I'm in NCR and don't wish to shift anywhere else.

For men who were in FDD pre-pandemic and traveled for management meetings, how many suits do you own/would you bring with you. I have….put on some poundage during lockdown and am just wondering how many I’ll eventually have to buy

How many days before joining date onboarding team contact for onboarding.

My H1B petition is approved( visa processing is left). What are the next steps and timeline? Should I retrieve my resignation in hope of this?

Really need your guidance: Which would you choose between these 3 options:
1. Non-FAANG tech for 109k TC in SF
2. Same firm as above - 95 TC in CHICAGO (my current city, matching current base)
3. Turn it down, look elsewhere and stay at D

Is it a dumb move to put your notice in without having a job lined up? Had my resume sent to a few firms and waiting on calls. Currently a S1 but confident I’ll be able to find some sort of job..

Does anyone know when Deloitte’s 30 Rock office’s will open?

Best durable couch for living with cats?? They tend to scratch no matter what I do so looking for a really strong couch to stand up to that .