Had a second baby almost a year ago now and just can’t get back into work mode. I used to be a workaholic and now can’t find any motivation in my current job. Most of it is probably sleep deprivation and feeling like I don’t have any time to myself anymore, plus burnout. Anyone go through this after having kids? How long did it last? I don’t have the option of simply quitting, but contemplating switching to a true 9-5, no-stress job, possibly out of law, while they’re young. But that’s scary.

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I’m going through that now. I have one child and she’s almost 15 months. It’s hard to explain but because my mental load has increased (worrying about her food, if she’s getting enough playtime, etc) it’s taken over my work life as well. I don’t have the same motivation and sometimes I’m working just because I have to. I used to be so motivated to work and I’m not sure I’ll ever get that back. I wish I could give you helpful advice but I’m trying to navigate these waters for the first time.

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