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I had a feeling you were a woman, OP (I am too)- I find most guys to be pretty oblivious to this stuff on a train. Don’t beat yourself up over not moving cars or changing trains this time. But the next you have a weirded out feeling, GTFO oft he situation. As women we’re conditioned to be nice, not fuss, not offend, whatever- we end up staying in hinky situations because we don’t want to offend anyone. I’d rather offend a stranger and not have something bad happen, than stay and find myself in the wrong place at the wrong time. If your gut tells you something is wrong, listen to that.
The second I feel uncomfortable in a train car, I move. You stood there with him doing that for multiple stops? Yikes.
There was a person to the other side of me (kinda blocking me in) and he was standing so close I felt kind of frozen. In hindsight, yes I definitely should have moved but in the moment it just felt threatening and scary and just fucking strange. Was also processing if it was all just in my head.
Even moving doesn't always solve the problem because they follow you. I'm a woman too and in the past I've discovered it helps if I strike up a conversation with a nice looking woman in the car. They are generally less likely to follow and try again if they think you're with someone. At least in my experience. NY subway is full of creeps. D.C. Too. Stay safe!
Am female btw
I think sometimes fear of embarrassment is as debilitating as fear. I have been in situations where I was thinking "this is crazy - am I crazy?" . A way to tackle it has been to say very loudly "what are you doing ? You are making me uncomfortable ". Then it doesn't matter if I can't find the words to object to the specifics of what they are doing
6 inches away from me, facing me. Holds onto the pole I’m holding and starting caressing it/rotating his hand around it aggressively (sexually?). Kept eyeing me up and down. Meanwhile I’m praying to god he gets off at the next stop. He did after a few stops but it was just so strange. Been on my mind all morning cause I was so ircked by it.
I like the idea of moving immediately. I had an incident on a hotel elevator yesterday - dude got on and immediately started asking me for money, we were heading to my floor just me and him, so when we stopped at another I got right off
NY
What did you want to do? Wish you had done ? What stopped you ? I don't want to be invasive but perhaps your thoughts now can help the person put in that situation next
60 year old pole dancing man? Eww
OMFG what city?