Had my first miscarriage in 2019, got pregnant naturally that time. Tried for another 1.5 year after, and then went to RE. On my first round of Letrozole + trigger shot, we got pregnant. Saw twins at 5 weeks. 6 week ultrasound showed vanishing twin syndrome and we could only hear a heartbeat on number 2. 7 week ultrasound showed another strong heartbeat and we were getting hopeful. 8th week - no more heartbeat. Got a D&C and now feeling emotionally drained. Does it get any better? Feel hopeless

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I’m so sorry :( my wife had 2 miscarriages last year (one from IUI and second from IVF). She is now 12 weeks pregnant. Still terrified, but I think that it does get better. Time time time. She also found a lot of support through various apps and online communities.

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Good luck!!🙏🏻

12 week scan went well. Saw the little alien’s face. There is hope, OP!

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Aww that’s amazing!!! So so happy for you, and hopeful for light at the end of this tunnel for us all!

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