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Had to convince my gf to let me study for case interviews and what not instead of hanging with her more. She came around but I was surprised that she didn’t push me to follow it initially. Cont...

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Lame story, bro

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Did you really explain the importance? Did you take the time to take her perspective (confusion, anxiety) into consideration? Did you make plans for later so she still felt like a priority? If none of the above prior to her being upset or mad or sad or whatever, then think again how you came across.

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Similar situation. My boyfriend is not the most understanding of my GMAT study schedule. He’s upset I couldn’t bum around with him all week watching movies and eating junk food. Trust me I wish I could! Kind of rethinking if he is the best match for me tbh. Will wait until post GMAT to see if things improve.

To your question OP, I don’t think it’s a red flag if she understands now after further discussion. It’s hard for people outside our lifestyle to understand the high stakes and sacrifices needed to succeed. As long as she wholeheartedly supports you and believes in you overall then 1 moment of misunderstanding is not a deal breaker

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If you failed to explain the value properly initially, I suppose that's a red flag for your ability to get the interview and job. Is that what you meant?

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I grew up in an academic household, so the idea of studying and focusing/being completely heads down for months is pretty normal to me. I don't think I'd last with someone who didn't get that automatically.

Might not be as big of an issue for you, though, especially if you're not trying to be a long-term academic. Does seem like she'll want you to prioritize her over your professional progress though. Not fine at this stage (pre-MBA), but will need to be something you're okay with of you get married/have kids. If there's not a definite time limit to this kind of thing, she won't be happy.

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Only consulting firms use case interviews - if she isn't a consultant there is no way she would just inherently know how important they are. I would cut her some slack, she probably just misses spending more time with you. It's not like she told you not to follow your dreams or anything like that. Also you didn't say whether this is a pattern of behavior so it sounds like a one off instance. I would just give her a study schedule and let her know that you'll be free all Saturday but are doing case prep on Sunday or that during this time you'll have a standing date night or something like that.

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Not a story, more so looking to hear experiences from other consultants that probably have faced this relationship thing before.

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Perhaps now that I explained the importance of studying, she’ll understand. Maybe she thought the prepping was overkill as she’s not familiar with the industry.

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Is that a red flag or not something to worry about, she understands now?

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My girlfriend loves to study, so for me, something like this was never an issue.

Bumming around and eating junk food sounds pretty amazing. I would skip the gmat studies for that.

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