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Handling peers:
I work with a colleague who will try to prove she is the final boss. For example: in meetings she will wait to see what I speak and then summarize them using different words, collect information from me and then present it to leadership and eventually become Go To person for all updates. Try to get into all activities to show that she’s on top of everything, try to be communicator on all things, cut me in meetings. Leadership enjoys the in group fighting to keep everyone in check

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Feed some false info?

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Yes. I thought about it. I want some solid behavior science ways of handling it. Solid steps which can be used to expose her as well as establish credibility of others who are working with her.

Is there a way for you to be proactive about it? When providing updates - email her and include mangers. Sometimes when you have an update to share, share it unprompted in meetings. The trick is to look like the expert so people assume they should come to you for your thing. If people wonder why you’re doing it - say it’s something you’re working on (being concise and giving relevant updates). Could work! Alternatively, I have no idea what your or her position is - she might be prepping for a promotion and needs to demonstrate that she can in fact get updates f everyone and be the lead for it so it might not be personal at all. In which case, I personally might let that be - I’ll be in the same shoes one day and would appreciate if the team was collaborative.

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:). Its already established I am expert in an area. But, she has grabbed the role where she will communicate , coordinate, ( “ and manage the team” ).
I am much more qualified than her. But, she could be easily prepping to grab any sort of limelight possible.

Sounds like she will be your boss soon.

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Welp, it’s time for you to play hardball 👿. Purposefully feed her wrong information especially information that embarrasses her in front of your bosses then step in to save the day. Only apply this method to high visibility work.

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Just turn things around:
- Share information in meetings with others or emails with others, not 1:1
- If she summarizes in a meeting, thank her for summarizing your idea/thought and ask her to do a certain follow-up task or verification

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Lol. SP1 - very creative.

If I were you, i’d phrase this whole situation in a formal way to your superiors. Give them a rundown of the dynamic

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PwC2:. Yes, leadership is weak. I have to reach out to two / three layers on top.

Op , are you with D?

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Lol. Not with D. But , I would say thus behavior could be in any of the Big 4s

I think what bothers me is the ethical part of it - where she will try to get information from me and then go around and speak as if its her idea. Is there a a way to handle this by not getting into any fight. I have over 16 years experience. In the past this would have led to arguments or complaining to the manager. But , I am trying to find ways to manage it.

Productiv1: thank you. Perhaps I will try sometime. Actually, I have seen I get riled up so much that I just stop communicating completely.

In meetings it sounds like you just need to be patient? Not sure how she can wait for you and then interrupt you but that’s all within your control. If you wait for her to speak first and then don’t stop talking when she tries to interrupt, it makes her look out of sync.

Annoying AF but... Let her become head honcho of PMO. You focus on being a subject matter expert and becoming the go to person for your craft. In a few years your careers will diverge and you'll each be on your own path.

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