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What language do they speak? New York, (especially near the city), is very diverse and you can find certain communities. It will be culture shock no matter where they come from for sure. Definitely need time to adjust
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My grandparents came here when I was a kid and got super bored in CA. Back home they have family nearby, the maid comes, the ironing guy, neighbor aunties drop by, etc. My grandma said America was just doing dishes and cooking all day long with no other human interactions. My mom did a ton of the housework, so not like we put it on grandma, and we always went somewhere site seeing every weekend, but grandma was still lonely here. My bedroom window overlooked a daycare, so she'd setup a chair there to watch the kids play.
Try to find other grandparent friends for them near your home, sign up for a Hotstar subscription if you haven't, and take them out on weekends.
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My parents came over when my son was born and after a while were super bored because my husband and I would work all day and we had someone to also help with the baby (bc our primary purpose was not have parents solely take care of the baby). I feel it’s a little unfair to them as I do not want to uproot the lives they’ve built for themselves to come stay with us - in our case it was our decision to move to a different country. They’ve friends back home and didn’t want to do that to them
Another important things is healthcare. They were on visitors health insurance that doesn’t cover much (I got a really expensive and comprehensive one including pre existing conditions and still could get paid out for a visit my mom needed to have). My father is diabetic (and has been for over 30 years) and needs weekly and monthly visits to different doctors. Back home, they’re very comfortable with the doctors bc they’ve been with them for a very long time. For these reasons, I decided against having them come for long durations!
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What would be the plan for healthcare coverage, and do you live in a community of people where they could make friends?
Thank you all. They’d relocate from Europe. Before making any permanent move I thought perhaps they could be here on and off for some months (like 2 months here and 2 months in Europe) and see how it goes. I do have some US family here of their age so they have some people they could hang out with once or twice a week; I honestly don’t know how at their age they could make new friendships?
My parents have moved several times since retiring and make friends everywhere- neighbors, church, local fitness clubs/programs catering to seniors. There’s no language barrier, which definitely adds a complication. Look for programs in their native language and connect with that community to make friends. My co-worker said his parents from Poland found friends through a local Polish restaurant- they ate their frequently and gradually made friends with others there. The idea of a few months each place is good- gives everyone some breathing space.