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I'm Sarthak Misal, Currently a student who's about to finish his degree in Business Administration with Specialization in Finance.
Previously I've worked as a Partnership Associate and I've also got little experience in CRM, Business Development, Monitoring Industry Trends, Project management, Operations management.
Currently trying to secure a job before college ends, would be grateful for all the help :)
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I have. Stuff happens. Sometimes tears are how I deal with it. No need to feel bad about it, especially if no one saw you.. You had a private moment in the bathroom.
Yes. And I have had several men and women cry in my office. We are all human.
Hugs.
Been there...and still there. It’s okay to cry;) it’s okay to feel unfair. Just remember we all have those cloudy days and the sun will always rise again ☀️
I’ve found that during a stressful/emotional day I feel better after excusing myself to the bathroom for a quick cry rather than holding it in. Do what you gotta do to get through the day
I probably cry on average once every 2 weeks. Mostly hotel at the end of a day, but I’d say once every 1-2 months in the bathroom or in front of someone. I put it down to high expectations and lack of sleep.
Come to BCG and cut your crying rate by ~half
Yes. 2x have had someone ‘make’ me cry during a difficult conversation, but I successfully made it to the bathroom. I recently cried in my partner’s office because I was worried about the team getting all of the work done. I did not want that to happen but it actually made him decide to be more helpful to me. Chin up! Happens to the best of us.
Yes a few times. Here if you want to talk. Just DM me.
Agree. Sending good thoughts, OP!
Yes, and it turned into a panic attack and my PL friend came in to help me breathe through it. You’re not alone, it’s not that uncommon. We all work very hard, and take a lot of pride in what we do, and to top it all off, we work in “feedback intensive” places.
I have literally sobbed at least once on every project I have been in for my 8 years in consulting. When I was younger and on some crappier projects (and hadn’t learned to manage my own emotions a bit better) this sometimes happened weekly. My best friend and I started consulting (at different firms) after college and have always talked about finding places to cry and consistentness of that experience. All this to say - of course. You are going to be ok, it’s normal.
This job is stressful! The emotions are real! I’ve found mediation, therapy, and a full filing personal life help in the long term, and a brisk walk outside, a little treat (special coffee or smoothie or sparkling water or going for a lunch I like), maybe ten minutes of an audiobook or podcast I like helps in the moment.
Not my finest moment but it happened. I will never do it again in front of anyone. I will now always excuse myself and cry in the bathroom or go home where I can be comforted alone in my room or with loved ones nearby. You did good. Hang in there.
always have
If you pinch yourself really hard multiple times, your brain will take the focus off whatever you're crying about onto that spot of pain. I know it's a really sick way of avoiding to cry. It's even worse that my mother taught me this when I was really young. Anyway, it works if you don't want to cry at that very moment.
Yes, I cried in the bathroom just a month after joining the firm. But I’m still here after 3 years. I always tell myself - it’s just a bad day, not a bad life. Hang in there ❤️
*btw, I know this is not a good thing (how easy I cry, how high expectations are or amount of sleep I get). And something I’m trying to improve on. But data point for you 😉
That’s fair. My perspective is fact that the job causes me to cry this frequently isn’t a good thing, I had a perfectly successful career before McK where I’d cry once a year max. I just don’t think it is a way to live my life so need to work out the right levers to pull to improve that.
I did. Even worse I had an anxiety attack that I had to run to the bathroom to take a deep breath so I wouldn’t break down in front of the client. I talked to my Partner; he agreed I shouldn’t work with the person who made my cry. I was rolled off and I started interviewing externally. I left the company recently and now very happy at the new one.
So few things I’m trying to do 1) we had a good training on inner voices - I’m trying to recognise the inner voice that leads me to crying and amplify other voices to drown it out, sounds silly but has helped a lot 2) breathing exercises and headspace - try to do a quick headspace each day which teaches you a bunch of exercises for high pressure situations. If I recognise it I’ll take 2 mins out to walk/sit in bathroom and breath.
Can you share any more context on this training? Sounds helpful for self regulation.
what I wanted to say is to make sure you always have Visine and a tight circle of friends. You are not alone
I cried myself in the office a few times. Specially after workshops (that required an insane amount of work to put together).
You’ll feel better.
Reflict on the review, talk to your PD advisor/mentor and go on. You got this!
We talked about this at work recently with my female colleagues. The answer was that we all cry at work (probably not every month but at least annually). A lot of us said it was our way to release anger or stress.
Yes, happened before. It humanizes us and any decent human understands that emotions and stress are expressed in many ways, tears being one.