Has anyone else quit the apps and starting meeting people IRL? It's so much better imo

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I hear you. I have had enough of the apps. They are exhausting, but then trying real life is like walking across a busy highway at times, just so much going on and not many people seem to have time for you. I’m 35 M in NYC, would love to find someone fun and just wants to enjoy the time we have. Big believer in Love can define grow over time.

Send me a sign!!!! Haha

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It’s refreshing to see a guy share this sentiment! Wishing you all the best @C1

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I wish I could do this but I’m shy and introverted. I also don’t drink so it’s really hard to meet people IRL even though I know it’s the better option. So fed up with apps though, send help 😔

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Perhaps create a meetup for non smokers and non drinkers who want to meet for other activities around the city.

I got off the apps for 2 years and got focused on myself and finding local things to do. That had a lot to do with getting off the road and really living life at home for a change. I picked up a hobby that’s become a passion and I am meeting people that way.

I recently got back on just one app after trying a few and I just see it as a channel that could work, but doesn’t have to. I’d met my last 2 boyfriends online so it’s just a matter of time and screening.

If we’re honest it is very easy to meet people but harder to find compatibility.

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Hahaha most of the people I meet are men so I’m not sure I can say it’s easier or harder for women based on that. It’s damned hard to really connect and vibe. A lot (a lot) of the men I meet are married or have SOs so I don’t really count them compatibility-wise. I think you are right generally that in person gives you a better read on the vibe.

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I just paused the apps last night I’m so fed up. Too many aggressive guys, lovebombing and being too forward. I also don’t drink and am an introverted artist so it’s really hard to meet people that get it ya know.

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Haha, “dating is like job hunting” - so true CA!

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I find that people don’t know how to talk to each other anymore. We are so connected to social media, that simple conversations are challenging for some via phone call or face to face. It’s rare to find some who wants to get to know you better. People are so caught up in what they perceive based on past experiences and what they see on social media. No one wants to do the work anymore.

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Paused the apps with the intent to meet more IRL, will start doing that more in the next month or so. What are some places you've had luck meeting people? My plan is to go to Meetups, events in my city / apartment community, bars, etc.

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NYC area

^ that being said, I’m 31F, have a cute senior dog and love to draw. I don’t drink but I like tea and tacos.

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I would love to quit the apps but I haven’t had much luck meeting people IRL. I would say that app dating has made the guys I’ve interacted with much more forward, and they end up saying things they’d probably never say to my face until at least a 3rd date 😆

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Saaaame 🙄

I would like to do that as well. I’m part of a church community but not a lot of people my age. Funny I had to Google IRL to know what it meant 😅

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I met someone from the app in real without wasting much of a time in texting & it was so much easier to not feel bad that douchebag wasn’t for me 😂

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Second this. Meet someone for a coffee chat to get the vibe rather than endless texting in the name of getting to know each other..

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Would love to get off the apps coz lately it’s been robotic style responses, stock images, not even a real convo but haven’t met a lot of people IRL, and the 1-2 better people I have met on the apps I don’t think I would run into iRL so been a bit rorn

Yeah, slowly. Meeting people IRL is much much much better than apps.

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