Has anyone ever reported a verbally abusive colleague to management/HR for their abusive behavior? How did it resolve?

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Usually this does not work - HR will run “an investigation”, which will conclude there is “no evidence” of this abuse, and if this individual is friends with management, well...

If you can, work with your mentors, including the partners, so they see what’s happening. And you could get a solution much more easily - they can either separate you two from working with one another or give them a stern talking to. No termination though.

When HR is involved the standards of proof are much higher and nothing will come out of it unless there is super strong evidence because they don’t want to get sued for wrongful termination.

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Thank you. I appreciate your response.

Nothing ever happens to them. It's crazy how firms protect toxic people. Unless there's physical or sexual abuse, HR won't actually do anything. They just do investigations that don't lead anywhere.

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I’m not going to comment on specifics but I appreciate you giving your perspective M1.

Yes. It went poorly.

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What happened?

Nothing to add besides what others said but. Question: have our talked to him colleague (sternly) and told them not to use that approach with you? I assume yes, curious to know how that went.

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How large is your firm and how much work do you have with this colleague?

I would suggest saying to the people who assign work that you do not work well together and you’d prefer not to work with him moving forward. Seems more effective than going to HR.

OP, what specifically is your issue? DM me if you want privacy.

7 years back when I was a 2nd seat trainee in London, my supervising partner kept saying stuff that was racist. Well, he said it was all in jest and to build rapport when I reported him to HR. Nothing came of it.

Subsequently, he didn't take kindly to the reporting, and made the rest of my rotation terrible.

All this cumulated to a point where I had worked around the clock for a Court of Appeal matter, and a Senior Associate and I were getting a bollocking for an error and my supervising partner threw a desktop printer at me. I lost it, picked the printer up and threw it back at him.

Nothing came of it since it was the near end of my rotation, and I was due to work in another team in 2 weeks' time anyway.

Such a terrible 6 months in my career.

OP: I have a fantastic boss now - who lets the entire team WFH for almost a year now and tells the management to piss off when they demand we return to the office.

And, I got my revenge on my supervising partner anyway. Went in-house to his biggest client a few years after that and transferred out cases and instructed other solicitors so he didn't get any work from that company for close to 2 years.

I had one secretary who reported my other secretary; we tried to have them work separately and and make modifications but in the end we fired the complainer. She was blaming the other secretary but actually she was the toxic one.

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