Has anyone ever said yes to being someone’s gf ( after a long situationship/hookup situation with them) then realized very quickly it wasn’t going to work. I feel bad for breaking up with someone after a month but also can’t drag something out any longer. He just really hasn’t changed

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I did, and I stayed for way too long instead of breaking up with him. Hugely regretted that decision. Don't be in a relationship with someone because you feel bad for them.

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It’s ok to change your mind when you get new information. You know that you deserve to be with a partner you actually like!

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Also realized that all this time I was waiting for him to see my worth and other amazing qualities about me that I didn’t stop to think well what he brings to the table/if I even like hi

He’s def not a bad guy and okay when I say he hasn’t changed he sort of has and been making changes but it’s still not at the rate I need tbh like I still feel like I’m asking and asking for the bare minimum. Feeling like this is just his core identity.

Yup, and I stayed for three years. Should have broken up after 3 months. You don’t owe him anything, especially something as valuable as your time. The blow of a breakup won’t be any softer a few months down the road, and if anything the longer you stay, the more likely you are to stay. If you know it’s not right now then take action

A month is a lot of information. It's okay to move quickly and move on!

Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.

It’s better to end it sooner than stay around miserable if you don’t see it going anywhere.

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