Help: I was briefly talking to an older male attorney over the summer. He reached out today re availability to hang out. I replied none and explained we had a death in the family. He became irate so I asked him to leave me alone. He responded in part “I'm a seasoned trial lawyer and, you ought to be cautioned against never making enemies in THIS field of ours. It will come back to haunt you. Have a shi**y life...”
Feeling so uneasy with all the layoffs and my company had a leaked memo from the ceo saying there may be cuts but didn’t mention which departments (very large company)
My question is when they decide to lay people off do they just axe the whole team or do they look at performance, pay, etc of each employee? Sorry if it’s a stupid question.
Which one do you find to be a more important factor when picking between job offers, higher pay or exciting projects?
Three weeks into a relationship and I’m not sure anymore. Thing went fine at beginning but I started to notice some of his action don’t align with his thoughts. For example, he will say that he will never let me go but also telling me that he doesn’t love me yet. He also shared my private information with his family without informing me first. He also overshares his past relationship and sex life that I never ask about and make jokes of how I cheat on him when I look at phone. Should I leave?
Hey all, Am a fresher. I received offers from Airbus and Informatica with same joining date.
Please help me to choose among one.
More details are as follows:
Role: Associate Systems Engineer
CTC: 12 Fixed +1 Joining bonus
Role: Associate Software Engineer
CTC: 12 Fixed +1 Performance bonus
Please do let me know your opinion.
I could never share a kitchen with someone who doesn’t believe in washing dishes by hand before the dishwasher.
Hi Fishes, Im working as a Digital Marketing Project Manager for the last 8 months. Switched from Retail Ops and Management after 8 years. What should be my salary in Kolkata? Also, how demanding do you think is my current profile?
I always have to go back and audit my commission pay because it’s never correct. A year ago when I found out that I could actually do that, I was a little bummed I’ve been missing out on that for months . My manager said “well it’s your paycheck”. My first sales job I never had to do worry about getting paid correctly. I’d like to think that companies take responsibility for paying their employees accurately and fairly. Is this a common thing in sales or was I just spoiled that first job?
Anyone dealt with buying a house but appraisal came in low? I'm trying to buy a house, hired the attorney, inspection came out positive... But the appraisal came in 20k lower. Thoughts/ advice?
Offered secondment for 3-6months as a mid & was assured by mentor it’s not a nudge out (important client) but I’m also being considered for the final round at a great inhouse spot I’ve fallen in love with. Don’t have an offer yet. Don’t want to commit to secondment and then drop it for inhouse but told the “ask” to do secondment isn’t an ask. Think it would be worse to say yes to secondment and abandon the commitment than just being pushy and saying no to keep inhouse option open. Thoughts?
So how do you normally get to work: Public transport just like everyone else, you may have heard of the air bus?
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I am a fourth year attorney and am on track to be partner of a small but well established ID firm in 2-3 years. Our bread and butter is ID but I have the freedom to take on any matters I like.
I do not want to be doing ID forever but I really don’t know what comes next. What other similar but more advanced (and better paying) fields of defense litigation are out there? Is the next type of civil defense litigation just going out and being hired by private companies?
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I am due for a laptop upgrade but for some reason I'm not ready to let my current laptop go...been through so much with it lol ever feel close with an inanimate object? Weird stuff...
Am I the only one who finds it extremely creepy how much success that Dahmer show has had? I feel like it’s so disrespectful towards the victims’ families and it glorifies a terrible person
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I have found that incorporating a holistic approach to my addiction issues very helpful. Posting a helpful website to hopefully help others.
Steps to recover from massive gambling (online) loss? Every week that I pay out sizeable amounts in the $5-15k range and feel so rotten. I win sometimes too - just only in the $1-2k range. I have blown all my life savings in the past 3 months to an online bookie I don’t even know. I have severe anxiety now and can’t sleep at night thinking about how I’ve ruined my life. This week on Wednesday I was down $7k, next day i miraculously covered that loss & was up $2k only to lose $11k in 6 hrs.
I can't stop myself from having 2-4 beers a night..atleast 3 nights a week..it used to be a LOT more beer and whiskey, but now that I'm living with my mom, I find myself making excuses to step out of the house and drink (sometimes alone)..makes me feel very guilty. I have tried early dinners to subdue the urge but it doesn't work. Tried excercising in the evenings but that just makes the urge stronger (reward mechanism). Don't know how to reduce/stop. Any advice?
Im ready to really try to get sober for keeps this time. What tips and tricks do you have for the first ten days where I’ll deal mostly with just the physical elements? Ive done it before@but never made it past 30 days.I finally made it to my first aa meeting. Wasnt ready to get phone numbers yet, but finally going and wanting to go back is big. I also am starting an IOP therapy program which is 10 hrs of weekly therapy for my social anxiety that is certainly intertwined with my drinking.
Very grateful to be alive and sober today! Have a great day fellow fishbowlers and thank you for all of your help!
Please provide some advice if you have any!
I tried to take the first step in my journey today. When I joined an AA meeting and saw the 12 steps they all had a religious emphasis. Are they all like this? What do I do if I need help but don't practice a religion? I really wanted help but I thought it would be more agnostic. What should I do?
Fell off again. Have been lying to my sponsor and in SAA meetings. Now seeing the mental damage it has done and wondering how I’ll ever recover or face the music because right now I don’t want to.
Here we go! Traveling on vacation for the next week and didn’t bring my Adderall (which I’ve been abusing for the past year). Hoping to wean myself off of it during the vacation. Wish me luck￼￼￼￼￼￼
Hello, I’m looking for accountability partners to help quit smoking hookah. I was clean for about 3 yrs, and have relapsed recently and finding it hard to quit smoking it.
Social media drives addictions for me. I got off a lot of channels and I thought about gambling a lot less.
What are some hot and cold drinks to replace alcohol? I like hard cider with Fireball, cabernet, chardonay, and craft beers but want to treat myself after a hard day with something less destructive.
Today was day 3 without Adderall (1st work day) & I felt extremely tired and sleepy all day. Any ideas on how to make my detox go easier? My 1 cup of Starbucks cold brew was useless lol
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but reach out to your sponsor. They’ll appreciate it. :)
What does everyone do for support while traveling? 12 Step meetings aren’t always easily available in some locales or time slots. How do you stay grounded, focused, and centered?
A friend has a weird drinking problem I want to get a read on. She doesn't drink often. Maybe once a month or less but when she starts drinking she can’t stop. She drinks too quickly and (cont)
Was not gambling for 6 months and then blew up a few thousands last night. Fighting the urge not to go back.
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I’ve certainly experienced it. I believe there are a few things that are happening when the “switch” happens.
Most people have heard that drinking (and drugs) lowers our inhibitions, so we do and say what we would do if we knew there were no consequences. This is probably true in some situations, but I believe the scarier part of going from Jekyll to Hyde is that when we partake in our addiction, the disease comes into control, and the disease can release and amplify all our fears and insecurities.
Basically we hyper excite our egos and go on a rampage to appease a swollen and sensitive ego. This is futile though, and the disease tells us more of our DoC (drug of choice) is good, so we just go deeper and deeper into the darkness of a sickened soul.
I have heard of this and actually hit my rock bottom recently with my Hyde coming out. I blacked out drinking and was doing and saying things I would not normally do nor do I feel the way of the things I said.
My therapist and I discussed how I tend to function in my limbic, and I have ADHD so I am naturally more emotional than others. Since I am primarily in my limbic, the distance between a freak out and calm is much smaller than those who reside in their pre-frontal cortex.
Also, she shared with me how a recent study showed in brain scans that after 1-2 drinks (regardless of body size) our prefrontal cortex goes dark while our limbic system remains active. Which can sometimes explain why someone may behave in a completely opposite way of their sober nature.
I disagree with people (now that I’ve gone through some experiences of my own) who say that “drunk statements are sober thoughts” or that how a person behaves blacked out is still a reflection of them. I for one can say that no, me blacked out and saying mean things is NOT me and NOT my true thoughts. I may feel insecure about something sober but me lashing out my insecurities while drunk does not mean I’m insecure with the triggering incident while drunk. My therapist and I have world extensively on me forgiving myself for Mr. Hyde behaviors. She reminds me that no, if I were sober, I would NOT have behaved in the ways that I did and that gives me peace and reminds me that I am a good person.
Yep S2 is more of people finding themselves, their destinies etc
Like many others, I read the book growing up and remembered the overall plot, but that was it…until I made a connection recently to my own personality as someone who drinks…
There’s a lot of research around the duality of human personality…and the book converges with thinking in psychology etc…
But only recently did I read about how RL Stevenson was on a cocaine binge for 6 days while he wrote the book…
The realization helped me “wake up” and wanted to share the thought as it may help others…