Has anyone felt depressed after having a kid (male here)? I feel anything I do for either my S.O. or for the baby is not enough and can’t manage this job + personal life. Some days I think everyone...

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It is normal for new parents to go through this. Can you confide in your SO? if so Inwould say talk to her and go to therapy together. You don't need to go through it alone.

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OP - I recently learned that postpartum depression happens to men too. Please see a therapist! The pressures of taking care of a baby while working full time are really difficult (mine is 3 years old and I am still struggling). Parenting is difficult in ways that I had not imagined at all. So what you are feeling might be more common amongst parents than parents let on.

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Also given how deeply you are thinking about this - I am sure you are doing great with both your SO and baby. The mind tricks us all the time into thinking we are not good enough. I am sure you are a great husband and dad.

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Hey, it was really overwhelming for me as well to become a father. Most days the first couple of years were complete sh#tshows. There are still some days now that are the same. Each day gets a very small amount better, though, as the kid gets older. It's tough to notice because the change is infitesemal. But in the aggregate, over the months and first two years after birth, life eventually becomes more pleasant and easier. You will enjoy your child more too.

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Would be better without me around (myself included). My S.O. does everything she can so I can have time of my own, but I feel either guilty for not supporting enough or that the little I do for the baby does not work.

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Did you want to have a kid?

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Our profession is not really conducive to family life. If that is the case, maybe step down for a couple of years and spend time with your family. You won’t regret it.

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