Has anyone gotten married after their father passed? How did you deal with all the father of the bride moments at your wedding? Any ideas that were meaningful? Or just ways to make it less sad?

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Both my parents were gone. I weaved my dad's sergeant stripes and my mom's pilot wings into my bouquet and had my older brother walk me down the aisle. My younger bro and I did the "father/daughter dance" and my parents' best friend gave a speech in their place.

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That sounds so lovely! Glad you have such amazing friends and family.

There's no wrong person to ask, OP. Do what feels right.

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My dad passed when I was very young. My older brother walked me down the aisle and I did a mother-daughter dance with a pic slide show of my dad in background

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My bf cousin had their wedding a year after her father passed away. She carried a little vial of his ashes in her bouquet to symbolize him walking down the aisle with her. It was very important to her but also incredibly difficult. I’m sorry OP, sending hugs your way

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My situation is a bit different as my dad and I aren’t close but I had my grandfather walk me down the aisle. I was also willing to walk down by myself - I see a lot of pictures of brides doing that.

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If your mom is there, do it all with your mom ❤️

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I’m listening to all of this. I lost my dad and brother when I was four years old. My mom and I are really close and I’m an only child too. I’m getting married in 2020 and was thinking about this. I am going to have my uncle (mom’s sister’s husband) walk me down the aisle since he and I are close and then share the father daughter dance with my father in law. I’m not really close with my father in law, but it is a kind gesture and out of respect too. I plan on having a large photo of both my dad and brother somewhere prominent (probably where the guest book is). I did think of having my mom walk me down the aisle too and there are lots of brides who do that or walk themselves down the aisle as well.

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My father died when I was a teenager and a large ceremony just didn’t feel right without him. We opted for a small private ceremony at home with my mom, brother and my husband’s parents and sister. Then we hosted a larger wedding reception at a venue later the same day.

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My husband and I both lost a parent and we’re not close to our remaining parents, and we walked down the aisle ourselves. Not a traditional choice, but it suited us well. We are about to celebrate our 10 year anniversary, and I’m still pleased with that choice

I’m not close with my dad, so I walked myself halfway down the aisle..and my husband met me halfway and walked back up to the altar with me. It was right for us and it got rave reviews from our guests. But if that’s not your thing, you can include your mom, relatives, MOH...whoever has been an important presence in your life.

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