Has anyone had an experience where they up and moved to a different city? I just realized that I’m in a toxic relationship with a narcissist, my girlfriends give 20% where I give 150%. It’s scary because I’m only 27, I just started a new job, keep finding myself in situations where I give and give love and receive scraps back that I have to force myself to accept. I’m coping with eating, drinking, sleeping. I’m so tired and I don’t have a support system (family is gone unfortunately).

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Hey OP, sorry you’re experiencing this. I think there is a risk that moving to a new city you could run into the same patterns. Have you considered talking to a counselor or therapist? It might also be a good opportunity to talk through a big life decision like this with someone who can gain more insight into your specific circumstances.
Also just want to add that you do not have to force yourself to accept anything. You should set boundaries/expectations and know how you will respond if/when others challenge but you should not force yourself to accept patterns that make you unhappy. This would potentially be another good thing to work through with the help of a therapist. 💕

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I moved to a new city in my late 20s because my job was toxic, my friendships were toxic and I was reeling from a toxic breakup. Life was hard and I felt lonely in the new city. But it was the best thing I ever did. So much growth and healing came from it. But I had to work hard to heal and realize that I needed to change too.

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Look up anxious and avoidant relationships. It changed how I thought about effort in relationships. Definitely recommend counseling.

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