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My parents have the dog I adopted in college. I couldn’t handle her and work travel so she’s lived there for 6 years. My parents could afford it but I pay for all her vet bills, food, etc. I’m the one who initially adopted her. I take full responsibility of that. I appreciate that my parents can take care of her and I would 100% pay that vet bill but would not expect to be paid back
Same situation with my former cat. My mother cared for my diabetic cat (insulin shots, fluids, etc.) and I reimbursed for all vet bills, food, medicine, etc. I would write a check every few months with “cat support” on the memo line which used to annoy her. Adulting.
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Was it your dog? And then you just left it with them and moved on with your life? Because if yes, then I’d say you have some responsibility for the dog’s care. At the least, you should split the cost with them.
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Pay for your dog’s expensive surgery. And maybe throw in a little extra for the fact that your parents have been taking care of your dog for 5+ years.
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I think it depends on the norm for the family, I’ve paid for my brother’s college tuition. In your case though, isn’t the dog really yours?
Yeah ^ my thought was it’s your dog so wouldn’t you pay for it regardless...??
Dang, kind of heartless on your part for not wanting to do what's best for the family dog.
Pwc 7 You serve as a reminder I didn’t need today on why an asteroid needs to take us out. We breed domesticated dogs into existence for no purpose really but companionship, then we don’t want to take care of anything but basic needs.
The dog is your family. I’d pay for the dog’s medical expenses regardless who’s taking care of the dog now. Also, your parents probably have spent more than $4k and lots of efforts the last 5+ years taking care of your dog.
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If it’s your dog then you should be the one deciding if you want the surgery for your dog or not. If yes, then pay for it. If no, then no surgery. If it’s your parents dog then it’s their decision and their money. Personally, I would never pay for a pet surgery. When it’s their time to go then I’d just make them as comfortable as possible and let them pass on. $4000 is a ton of money. Especially for a pet that probably won’t live much longer either way.
My parents dog needed surgery (112 lbs & 10 yrs), paid 4K for the surgery and a year later he’s better than he was before and in great shape. You never know when a pets life will end. W/o the surgery he would have been limp his remaining life and if you decided to put him down you would have taken Atleast 1 year + from him. I see him living 2-3 more years. he doesn’t have any issues so hard to say. Spend your money how you’d like but pets are family to me where such an expense would not be an issue.
Yeah, since the dog is involved I think it’s fair to at least pay half. If they wanted you to help finance a new refrigerator, that would be another thing.
You definitely should pay for it. It’s YOUR dog your parents are helping take care of. The least you can do is pay for the surgery and give them a thank you gift / money on top of it for taking care of YOUR dog as a family and not expect to get paid back.
Yeah it’s technically your dog and you should pay for it. I don’t get people getting dogs at inopportune times and then the parents have to take care of it. I mean I am sure something was worked out but a dog in college? I could barely take care of myself in college 😂
It’s expensive to have a pet. Should have known that.
Before I got my dog, I was told to be financially prepared as a dog over its lifetime costs equivalent to a car. I expect to spend about $30k at least if my dog lives a long and healthy life and I’m happy with my choice and prepared for it.
Everyone’s relationship is different. Not sure their motivation (are they actually short on cash or just trying to make a point?). I had a great relationship with mine and would probably pay it (if they weren’t able to pay), but that’s just me and my relationship with them. If there was a point they’re making I’d probably sit down and have a conversation to open that up and discuss what the point is that they’re conveying and try to resolve. If it’s money I’d prob pay since it probably took them a lot of courage to ask. I think it depends on their motivation honestly.
And OP has left the chat… maybe they didn’t get the response they were wanting?
PwC 7 probably gave them what they wanted 😅
If you give to family it’s a gift. Don’t expect it back
Unpopular opinion here, but my first question would be what is the surgery for and what kind of dog? A $4k surgery for a 10 year old dog isn’t practical for a breed with a life expectancy of 10-12 years. Dogs don’t live forever, and sometimes putting them to rest is actually the most humane option. Just something to consider.
Neither do humans live for ever. Just saying
This is YOUR dog. Problem #1, 2 & 3 is that you don’t see this as YOUR responsibility. They shouldn’t have to pay you back for the surgery YOUR dog needs. Otherwise, put the dog down. If you can’t handle the responsibilities of being a pet owner, don’t be one.
My parents also took my dog (more their choice than mine) and they don’t ask for anything but if they ever asked for anything I’d give it to them in a heartbeat.
1. It’s technically MY dog and my responsibility.
2. My parents LOVE this dog so much and they’d be devastated if money is what caused them to lose him.
3. Pets are family.
4. My parents paid for everything for most of my life. A $4,000 is nothing. But I would also never let them pay me back.
I was on the other side of this. I asked my brother for a $10k loan my senior year of college and told him once I started my job, I’d pay him back (with a little interest). Once I started in September, I ended up having him fully paid off 3 months later. We both trust each other so it was not a big deal.
I think for your situation it depends on how well you know your parents and if you think they’ll actually pay you back. For my family, I’m confident we would pay each other back but I know it isn’t like that for everyone. As a side note, I do think if you initially got the dog and gave it to them after you moved because you didn’t want it anymore, I’d at least pay half of the vet bill. If you got the dog and they wanted to keep it although you were willing and able to though, then that’s a bit different.
honestly i’m a sucker for my pups, i would do anything for them in a heart bear. i moved out of my moms and i make more money than my mom, there’s time where our family pup needs something extra from the vet, or extra exams and i put maybe half down. if she can’t pay i pay for it all. there’s also a pet vet credit card you can get with a low interest rate, maybe that could be an option for them if you can’t pay.
i will also add that is a lot of money, my fiancé and i are waiting and praying my pup’s acl gets better bc that surgery is very expensive so i get that side of it. but regardless maybe look into the credit card to not take a huge hit
First I thought if you are financially capable of helping this dog and are worried about being reimbursed, rather than worried about the health of the dog, that’s pretty heartless. But then I realized if you could give up a dog you adopted in the first place, this post makes sense. It doesn’t seem like you suddenly became homeless, joined the armed forces, or something legitimate like that. I hope YOUR dog got the love from your parents that it deserved, since he obviously didn’t get it from you. Final thought for your future: remember you can’t so easily give away children.