Has anyone here broken off an engagement? Why did you do it and how did it go?

In depths of wedding planning and differences between our parents (not each other) are coming out and I’m afraid the future will be tough.

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Don't break off something good just because parents or prospective in-laws are problematic.
Do this:

1. Have your partner onboard that the two of you are in this for the long haul.
2. Politely but firmly tell your parents that you and partner will remain together. They can either accept it or fu*k off. Your to-be spouse needs to do the same with their parents.

Hope you two have a great life together!

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I did, was engaged and relocated to a different state, where he lived (got my own apt on rental) until we got married. His parents seemed to have issues with mine, but they were not “real” issues, rather a lot of assumptions and eventually I started getting different vibes. Throughout all this, the guy I was engaged to also seemed to have got under the influence of his parents and their assumptions versus talking it out. I received really strong vibes that things were not looking good, and he also did not help much with these difficult conversation. I took the step forward and decided to end things. Do what feels right for you. We can only give advice, but only you know your reality.

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You want to break off an engagement because your respective parents don’t get along?

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I’m worried in the future it wall cause a lot of problems.

Don’t encourage the thought of breaking up … figure out a way to make things work first. Let breaking up be the last resort. If the thought of breaking up comes very easily to you , shove it aside… but do all of this in a time frame (not going to suggest one as I don’t know your situation).

Whichever partner you go with , the situation in which you feel you are caught between the rock and a hard place will come sooner or later …

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If your gut says this relationship is not for you, listen to your gut. You’ll be just fine.

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Trust me, I wish I had!

Not asking you to break it off, talk but I can assure you it’s easy believe that you just need the 2 of you in sync and the rest don’t matter, trust me FIL, MIL play a big decisive role get to know them ....

This!
Especially if you’re in the traditional southeast Asian setup.

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