Has anyone here had experience serving in the military? About to join the reserves and want to hear personal stories, especially as a woman

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

No experience serving (am physically disabled, so it was never an option for me), but thank you for signing up!

likeuplifting

Im interested in following but I just don’t think I have the discipline 🤣

like

I work as a civilian and I've dated a few women who were uniformed. (Not my coworkers.) What do you want to know? There's no one story. Joining as an officer and not going through the service academies, you're much less likely to be harassed or assaulted, if that's a concern. There are huge cultural differences across and within each branch. If you're going into an area with a lot of women, that's also going to be a different experience than if you're going into a recently-opened-to-women area where there is resentment and concerns about women being there.

There's a big literature on this topic, from more scholarly to less so. I liked Love My Rifle More Than You, although some of that is specific to being deployed, which, again, may not affect you.

like

Are you joining the Army Reserves via OCS? A lot of the bad stuff that happens because you have very young men and women who haven't been away from home before, alcohol, and huge power differentials, including women's careers being on the line should they choose to report because of senior leaders who do not create a culture of accountability around this. It's bad. But that will probably not be your experience. Not that it never is -- there are female senior officers who get harassed by generals. But it's less likely. In part because, as a reservist, the stakes are lower for you in terms of reporting it.

You'll get through bct. It's designed for you to get through it. Being in good shape is a major predictor of success, both for the obvious reasons and because you're less likely to get a musculoskeletal injury, which happens a lot with women in training.

There's also the contempt thing. There are men who think women shouldn't be in certain jobs and who resent that happening. I don't think there a lot of men who don't think women should be there, period. There's a lot of issues now around the new physical fitness test and how that's playing out for women.

Related Posts

Hi Fishes,
Can you people help to get 11 likes for dm?

Thanks in advance.

like

How come PWC SDC pays more than PWC India? Also, can anyone tell me between DDV and Strategy which is good? Considering that max engagements in PWC are DD based is there any strategy being done in SDC?

like

Hi guys- What is the average fixed salary range for AM in Risk Advisory in deloitte india. Thanks!!

like

If you could work for anyone on the street, who would it be?

like

Hi, can you tell me how many rounds takes place in for automation testing round. I have got a link for an online test and what is the difficulty level should we expect from this test v

like

I am a solution engineering (presales) manager, and looking to hire a Tableau Analytics SE for our Canada Public Sector team. Seeking candidates with relevant experience in technical customer-facing roles and/or analytics. Ideally residing in Toronto or Montreal metro areas, public sector experience. Bilingual (French and English) is a huge plus. Please let me know if you are interested to learn more! I don’t have the job posting yet but will share once I do.

like

For those of you that worked in multiple big four companies, what differences (positive or negative) do you see or is it basically the same thing regardless?

like

Anyone move to this group from Accenture ?

like

What does your process look like for evaluating a potential MBA program? Other than employment reports?

like

Hi Fishes- I have an offer from Deloitte for Bangalore location and Coforge has matched the same and joining location is Greater Noida which is near to my city and Bangalore is too far. Should I accept the coforge offer or join Deloitte as it's a bigger brand ??

likeuplifting

I’m sick of working in Pharma advertising. I don’t feel good about what I do and my clients are an absolute nightmare. Needless to say, I’m ready to jump ship and explore a marketing career outside of agencies (possibly at a record label - I love music). Any advice on how to leave an agency and get a new job in-house somewhere? Idk where to begin or what title I’d apply for.

likefunny

Hi! I’m interested in pivoting into a L&D role. I’m curious as to what kind of interview questions I can expect and how I can best prepare. Any advice is greatly appreciated! Thanks!

like

Meds definitely make me kind of dyslexic. What the hell? How? Why? Anyone else had this? I never had spelling issues or misreading/mistyping similar words. Need some consolation peeps!

like

I’ve been given a verbal offer for a Marketing Associate position at a major bank. Comp is $110k base with an annual bonus. What is an appropriate counter?

like

What should be the CTC of an 8+ years experience Java developer in India?
Please provide valid information without any exaggeration. Thank you!

like

What do I do if I've developed the belief that technology is harming society more than helping it after being a tech nerd most of my life?

like

Anyone in big four accounting willing to give a referral?

like

Anyone here working on netcool in Tech Mahindra ? How's work culture and how much compensation should candidate with 7 years experience in netcool development should ask for?

IBM Infosys Accenture

like

Gut check. On HCP projects, do you find the client or CW suggests what part of ISI per page?

like

Additional Posts in Women In Consulting

Just started Swimlabs swim classes for my kids. How many classes will my 5 year olds need before they can swim? Is this something I have to do for years?

like

hadn't worked with a female co-worker since starting this job, recently met a mindblowing amazing person who just got promoted to manager. she loves reading, any suggestions on female leadership books

likehelpful

At Accenture changing from internal analyst role to a senior analyst in digital & client facing.I am always worried about being a female and salary. What should I negotiate and expect for pay?

like

I recently presented to some potential new hires on a video call. DURING the call, one of the potential hires sent me a DM on LinkedIn saying "Hey ;) Maybe we can collaborate" What the hell do I do? It feels so unprofessional. This guy has already been offered a job, we were just trying to convince them to accept. But I am uncomfortable.

likefunny

Does anyone use numbing cream before a Brazilian? Is it unsafe to use to in any way other than not being able to feel the temperature of the wax?

like

Anyone get revenge on their ex? I want to hear your stories!!!

likefunny

Does anyone have positive experiences with getting an ex back? I just went through a breakup which he initiated, and I know I deserve better but one part of me is still convinced he was my soulmate

like

My husband yells at me in front of my 2 years old, even when he is scared. He needs to express his anger out before he can shut down. I am planning to leave him but I am hesitant because I am afraid this would negatively impact my son more, not having a father figure around much.... not the first time, my husband promises multiple time that at least he would control his anger in front of kid but never Lee up the promise...sometimes he would even throw stuff (not at me and my child)...

like

Talk some logic into me please. Been seeing someone for 2 months. We both agreed we aren’t ready for exclusivity & don’t know if we see long term with each other (both have been divorced & hesitant to hop into anything) but that we wanted to continue to see how things develop. We both been on dates with other people. He shared he went on a 2nd date with someone last night & it went well. Why do I feel so cruddy? I’m thinking about what if he likes that person more than me, & commits to them

like

Ladies, what are your go-to sandals for big city walking (like NYC)? Need something cute, slightly heeled, but comfortable that stay clean enough...and don’t know if anything like that exists 👀

like

Taking control of my sexual health this year but I’m quite nervous about getting an IUD. What if it’s uncomfortable or my partner feels it during sex? Please share your personal experiences with me, have they been overall positive? Does it shift depending on how rough/ lengthy your partner is?

like

Transitioning into a consulting role full time after graduation. Been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now (long distance - 450 miles) but nervous about the consulting lifestyle & dating. Any tips?

like

Anyone willing to post their home office? I’m looking to revamp mine

like

Ladies, if your SO is in better shape than you does it ever impact your relationship in a bad way? Like do they resent you for not being as active / healthy, or are you able to still make it work?

like

Have any of you ladies managed to get over an ex after being hung up on them for years? My ex and I broke up two years ago but I still think about him every day. We live in different countries and he’s now married - I’ve tried multiple therapists, changing cities, traveling loads, throwing myself into work, dating, self help books, you name it. While the pain has become much more bearable, it’s never gone away. Will it ever?

like

Lead for project asked me how much have I worked with coworker on certain training, and I said only a little. Lead then said that coworker claims no one has helped him and lead said he is afraid(cont)

like

Good morning! I have my mid year review coming up this week and was wondering if any of you prepare a document for this conversation. If so, what is on it and how do you drive the convo?

like

Somewhat Deloitte specific, but the Deloitte bowl is mean so posting here

I’m up for promotion this year, and I’ve been working so hard and my feedback is amazing and I’ve wanted this for awhile. Now, an immediate relative is actively dying and I may go out on a short leave, and I also have some PTO planned so that I can visit family oversees later this fall. With all that’s happening, I’m not going to hit my 90% utilization target, which is a checkbox in my promo. (cont).

likehelpful

Many of us tend to be critical about our bodies. I want us to get a chance to celebrate and not criticize. Our bodies do so much for us, yet we are always thinking of things we would like to change. Instead, today I am asking you to share 3 things you like about your body. 💕

likeupliftinghelpful

Words of logic and encouragement would be appreciated. Im 31 & started dating again after 2 years of focusing on myself. Hit it off with a guy that I had been consistently seeing 2-3 times a week for the last month. Today he tells me that he’s still hung up on his ex from 2 years ago. They still text every week or so. I’m sad/disappointed because he’s obviously not emotionally available. Please provide some logic on next steps and pros/cons of staying in contact with this person

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Send download link to your phone

OR

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Messaging rates may apply

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal