Has anyone here stopped seeing someone because they can’t afford to enjoy the things you like to do? Asking for a friend.

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Pay for them if they can’t afford it and it means a lot to you to eat these high end meals


If you're an attorney in your 30s that's even worse.

The dating pool for you is SHRINKING EVERY DAY.

People in their 30s mostly would want to put $500 toward a house not sushi. Whatever you think you're saving already -- you'd be so much smarter to invest that money instead of literally eating it.

Or you better buy yourself a home and be ready to live in it and pay it off alone.

It sounds like you are eating your feelings tbh


Well if you're so financially independent I don't know why you aren't just buying people dinner.

There is literally nothing you can say in this conversation that will make your goal of finding a $500 sushi partner seem smart to anyone else.

Please think twice for your own sake.


I sort of have, but my threshold was much lower than $300-500 dinners weekly as you mentioned. Overall, it isn't morally wrong to choose not to date someone who can't or won't spend like you do.

However, you DRAMATICALLY reduce the size of your dating pool. Don't be surprised when you're older and single. The issue won't be that there weren't any good men, it will be that you rejected them.


That is kind of vague, what are the things that you would like to do that they can’t? Are you talking about nice dinners or first class trips to Europe?

I can afford this and I still wouldn’t do that, it’s insane amount of money to spend on a nice dinner weekly. I think you need to realign yourself to reality because it’s rare you will find anyone willing to do that


You come across as if you care more about status than the person you are with…and extremely selfish and entitled. Just being honest. If you cared about the person you were dating you would either pay for their meal (because you want them to be with you) and to not put a financial burden on them, or dial it down so they don’t feel left out. But to end it with someone because they can’t afford $250 sushi (my husband and I make $500k joint and I wouldn’t pay that for sushi) is actually very shallow. You may not be in person but that is 100% how you come across here and that is so unattractive, no matter how much you make.

This person will be lucky for you to dump them before they get in too deep and find out all of the things that are wrong with you later. And there's a LOT to discover. You really do not seem to grasp the meaning of life or love or anything about what should be driving your priorities.


I’m going to go on a limb and guess you have a very high IQ and because of that your emotional IQ isn’t at the same level as most people. I have a brother like that and so is my husband, both Mensa. In your 30’a and a lawyer someone fits the mild, but I may be stereotyping . They don’t understand why emotions matter. You come across that way also. If that is the case then it makes sense.

If the person you are dating makes you happy then to hell with money, don’t make them rack up debt to try to appease you. If they like you or love you, then show them you care about them also…assuming you do. Even if you are an emotional person you can still try to understand the feelings of others.

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