Has anyone lost a friend who was very young? I lost my friend a year ago when she was 25 and I’m still hurting. I don’t know how to move on. I miss her every single day but feels so stupid to talk about it because people just ask me to move on because it’s been so long. But I don’t wanna move on. It’s very difficult to do life without her

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I’m so sorry that you’re hurting and missing your dear friend. I did have a friend who died when he was 25; we weren’t besties/super close but he was a good friend. I still think of him often and miss him and am sad about not getting to talk to him and grow old together.

I once heard in a TED talk that we don’t move on from our grief; we move forward with our grief. In every new experience, every part of our lives, our loved one is with us because they have shaped us. And sometimes I still talk to my friend like he’s there because he is. It’s been almost 6 years. One year is not a long time - don’t feel pressured to have “gotten over it”.

People who care about you are willing to listen and be there with you, more than you might think. However, I would suggest seeking a counselor/therapist to go through the grieving process and understand how to move forward.

If you do want to chat at all, please feel free to dm me. I’m with you in spirit ❤️❤️❤️

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M1 - the world needs more people like you

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Grief is not on a clock, and people should be more kind. I’m sorry :(

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M1 has expressed in such real words. This is exactly what happens when one loses a loved one regardless of what age the person was when they no longer were in our lives. There is no moving on.

We don’t leave them behind, we can’t leave them behind.

I lost my great granny about a decade ago. I came to realize I have never loved anyone like her. As years pass, that feeling just becomes stronger. There are times I remember moments spent with her and there is a big smile. How she used to cheat in board games and I used to scatter the board and run away. Or how she always used to feed me first before eating a morsel from her own plate. How she never let my head lie anywhere other than her lap when I had fever. How I always used to insist I wanted her to take care of me when I was unwell and my mom would get her home to stay with us.

Memories - we hold on to them. They live in our hearts until we breathe our last.

Don’t try to leave behind, you hurt more. Like M1 aptly said, move forward along with them.

I don’t speak much about her or how I feel today about losing her, or how sometimes (like now), tears just roll down the cheeks thinking about her. But that is life my friend. Here is sending you lots of love and strength to move forward. 🤗

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been so long? a year is no time at all. surround yourself with more understanding people. i wish you the best

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100% agree with this

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I lost my best friend at 33 back in December due to covid. I can't say if life will ever be the same, but it gets better with every day.

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My sister lost her best friend since kindergarten at 19 to cancer. My sister will be 30 next week and she still thinks about her every single day.
Grief looks different for everyone and there is no shame in hurting. The hurt may never go away, but it does get better.
I think what’s helped my sister is being more open to life and opportunities knowing that life can be short. She carries her friend through every experience that she never got to have, asks her for help when she needs it and just tries to keep her alive in her heart.
Praying for you ❤️

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I lost my cousin when I was 17 (9 years ago)- it never gets easier and I still talk about him. If people are annoyed that you're talking about it, they have 0 empathy. What helped me get through the early years was journaling as if writing letters to him, and I still do that sometimes, but now it's more a conversation in my head. We also celebrate his birthday and deathday in my family with a toast and a shot of his favorite liquor, and every time my extended is together we do it then too. It makes me feel better to know that he'll always be remembered, that he isn't left behind.

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