Has anyone planned a small, intimate wedding where the bride or groom had divorced parents that were not friends? Curious how others may have navigated this on their ‘big day’. I know everyone can just be an adult for a day, but that doesn’t help the anxiety around it being an uncomfortable dynamic. I saw another thread on here about wedding-related stuff and found the perspectives of others helpful!

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They should be able to be adults for the day. Just plan photos, seating and anything else to ensure they aren’t together. Put siblings or step-parents in charge of keeping them apart and happy.

Remember that it’s not their day, and you shouldn’t be uncomfortable. They can put their adult pants on or stay home.

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Should have said - I dealt with this with my husbands parents and had a lot of anxiety about it until someone reminded me that if they are uncomfortable with each other it’s their issue and trying to take accountability for their happiness was futile. It was slightly uncomfortable at times but I didn’t take that feeling on and everything was fine!

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My BFFs wedding was like this - I was maid of honor and got a front row seat to a shitshow. My biggest advice? Over-communicate on your expectations, timeline, and who you want involved and when from the start. Try to plan ahead as much as possible.

Don’t expect that people will do the “right” thing - everyone’s interpretation of that, especially when it comes to weddings, is drastically different.

You will probably need to have a lot of not fun, frank conversations with both of them. It gets even trickier when one or the other offers (or doesn’t offer) to pay for things.

Breathe deep, and stay the course on what *you* want. Xoxo

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I didn’t have this situation specifically but if you look on r/wedding on Reddit lots of advice there. It was really helpful as I had some family stuff to navigate

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