Has anyone questioned their sexuality? I feel like I’m too old to be wondering about things, but at the same time...

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why does it have to be so binary? I disagree with the whole "coming out" thing. it's so much more fluid than that and doesn't mean definitively you are something and not the other or always one way. sometimes you might like one person and sometimes another...it's no big deal

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In my early 40s, and after dating (and divorcing) only men but having a few flings here and there with female friends, I am whatever I am. I don’t really identify as bi, but who cares? Also recently dated a man who I really cared about, who came out to me that he is a woman and is now beginning transitioning. I still find her attractive, so go figure.

It’s all a spectrum. Find someone who you can connect with and go from there. What’s beautiful about society now is that my 13 year old daughter can tell me she’s gender fluid, her friends all talk about it, and it’s no big deal.

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C1 I love that...gender fluid!! I agree find the love no matter the gender. it is what fulfills you on all levels. I have been with my partner for 35 yrs. we have been lucky that we have found that kind of relationship..

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I’m 33 and just came out as bi x

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You’re the youngest you’ll ever be. :)

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Lol my knowledge of him is only limited to a few Shark Tank episodes I’ve seen. But I’m glad I think like someone that successful. 😆

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25 and given up on fully understanding mine l o l

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Agree. Sexuality is fluid. I’m learning my ack of attraction to 98% of guys is because I have a preference for women. I think this preference has changed over time.

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This thread is uplifting and encouraging. I identify binary and cis but have friends who have struggled through the spectrum. We're in our 30s now but they're so much happier for having gone through figuring things out and being true to themselves. I'm happy for then as well and to see the amount of support out there now. OP, age really is nothing but a number. You can't put a limit on happiness and I would recommend finding your support as you work through this whether it's curiosity or a much larger shift.

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I sometimes dreamt that I am a man having sex with a woman but as I woke up, I can’t seem to relate. Probably not exactly the response that you are looking for.

I also don’t believe anyone is too old for anything.

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No need to pigeon hole yourself. Sexuality is fluid imho

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You are never too old to question anything

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I know plenty of women who "came out " in 30's & 40's. Many had relations with women while at college, but really wanted children.. the marriage did not work out and so there sexual attraction changed. I think that it is up to the individual. I have been a lesbian all my life. I'm in my 50's and have never been sexually with a man. I dated in high school, sure did a little "heavy petting" but never wanted to experience intercourse with them. I believe that your sexual desires can change. the more you understand your body the more things change.

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Absolutely. Everyone's questioning a little imo..best thing about it too is that it doubles the dating pool 💁🏻‍♀️

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Just want to thank everyone for their thoughtful replies to this post. It’s definitely a confusing time but immensely reassuring to hear I’m not the only one who feels like this.

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