Has anyone taken a break from dating and if so did you find it helpful or regret it? Was dumped earlier this year and after grieving that relationship tried to start dating again. So far it’s gone poorly, I’ve been ghosted multiple times with the few men I felt a connection with and didn’t feel a connection with the rest. I’m debating taking a break for the rest of 2021 but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep trying so any future rejection stings less or to take a full break and work on myself?

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Broke off my engagement earlier this year and have not dated since. Instead, I’ve focused on making new friends and building a community for myself. I’m not yet ready to date again but I don’t regret taking this time to spend on my loved ones and myself

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So sorry to hear about the ended engagement but it sounds like it’s worked out to be the best thing for you!

I took a break from dating for all of 2021 and it’s been great lol I’ve never felt so stress free. Take a break! Dating these days is so stressful. My excuse is it’s a pandemic 🤷🏻‍♀️
I tried dating all of 2020 and while in the moment I thought it was fun it also came with a lot of stress because of the bs the guys try to get away with now that it’s been almost a year this time has made me realize what I really want and don’t want and I will definitely be more selective when I do decide to start again.

So I say all that to say that having time away from dating can be beneficial for you to step away from the scene to figure out what you actually want In a partner.

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Great points, thanks for sharing!

I took a year off and forced myself to do all of the things i thought i needed a boyfriend for alone. Best. Decision. Ever. Also ended up meeting my now husband during it and it’s the first genuinely healthy relationship I’ve ever been in. Amazing how it all can fall into place once you put yourself first.

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Nothing in life comes with a guarantee. At least when you focus on being happy single, you learn to enjoy life without it being contingent on having a partner. In my case, this was learning to do stuff alone as well as therapy to unpack negative thinking and patterns I had. It ended up with me finding a great relationship when I’d stopped looking, after years of crappy ones and on the heels of an abusive one. After going through what i went through, i didn’t WANT a relationship. At least not for a while. And then a great one came together for me and i was able to see if for what it was vs sabotage it because I had learned how to value myself as a whole and not as a part.

I’m sorry things haven’t worked out for you. No one can guarantee they will so I won’t say “someday” or any of the Bs people said to me. I will say it is absolutely worth it to step back and unpack yourself. And learn to be happy without a +1. When you work on that, the relationship part doesn’t matter anymore.

The luxury of dating breaks are for ladies in their early 20s or those not looking to have kids.

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I definitely see your point. So you think it would be better to keep dating despite less than stellar results, rather than try to improve myself for a bit in the hopes of better results after?

Best things always happen when you're not looking 🙃

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Love can't be forced bb. Love yourself first

Similar boat. I’m in my early 30s and just got out of a long term relationship right before the pandemic. It was like one bad thing after the another. So I took a break last year. Although I had tried to be open, I didn’t feel I was ready when it came down to it. I was way too picky with everyone and as a result felt that I haven’t healed yet. Plus with the pandemic it was awkward for me to date. Perfect example a guy tried to kiss me and I backed away thinking “woah there buddy id have to really love you to take that risk” so it just became pointless to date for me because let’s be real who is going to take it THAT slow. I’m not sure what to tell you I’m still sitting here not that interested in half the people I talk to and the one or two individuals I end up slightly being interested in end up being catfish.So yeah it’s tough but I say be open don’t stress about finding someone and it’ll happen as long as you’re ready and open. In the meantime absolutely enjoy your time to yourself. There’s been times when I missed having the freedom of being single in my past relationship so take advantage while you can just remember to not be closed off to those that show you interest.

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Taking a break now, deleted all my apps. Truthfully I don’t miss it at all. I do get lonely, but don’t find the need to date.

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