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Sending you hugs and strength
Do you have a support system? If not, you can always DM me. I haven't experienced this, but I'm a good listener and sounding board if you need it, or just someone so you don't feel alone!
Thank you all, I appreciate your responses and sharing your experiences. It means a lot to be able to share something so personal and painful and knowing I’m not alone
You’re definitely not alone! I’m happy to continue to answer your questions/thoughts/fears/musings.. whatever. It’s not an easy thing to go through, no matter what the situation is.
I have. Some cramping. Lots of blood and clots/clumps (not sure of the right term). If you go through with this, try to do it around a time where you can be home bc you will likely soak through pads and you can’t use tampons until cleared.
Sending strength to you sis.
Just throwing it out there that if you have the baby I would be thrilled to adopt it personally. I’m insanely nice, successful, well respected and a great mom to an only child who desperately wants a sibling. I cry daily since I want a baby so badly. I know that’s not what you asked for, but wanted to share my thoughts reading this
ZA feel for you however maybe start another post about this? There are others who will feel the same and I think you can find some strength there. It just feels entirely inappropriate for a response to this particular post.
It was awful awful cramps. I was fully, mentally, emotionally on board with my decision. But once the experience really started happening, physically, I felt like I couldn’t handle the pain (which just means I’m a wimp). It was about 30 minutes of nausea, extreme cramps, and bleeding, then I got into bed and took Advil/other prescribed meds (I can’t remember now) and fell asleep. When I woke up I felt physically much much better and from there it was minor cramps and residual bleeding
Your not alone in this, sending strength to you
I have done both pill and surgical. Would vote surgical any day. Pill was horrible for me, I did not react well to it at all. Horrible cramp that makes me just want to die, took pills to pass out and woke up with my bed soaking in blood, that's after putting down pads and towels and so on. Each time lasted around a week. And the pill also made me energy drained (possibly from the blood loss), and put me in very very grumpy, unhappy mood. I was basically chopping everyone's head off if they so dare to speak to me during that time. Surgical is a lot easier by comparison but that's only my personal experience.
I know I sound like a monster but I don't regret every single time. I wasn't prepared to bring a child that I don't want into the world, to me that would be unfair on the child. I'm 33 now still with no plan to settle or have kids, and I probably won't be able to after what I've been through anyway, but still no regret. I don't believe I need to reproduce to have a happy fulfilling life.
Didn’t go through the pill, had a surgical abortion, but happy to answer questions if you have any OP. Sending hugs!
Yes, please take care and reach out to us if you need support. We are all here for you
FYI OP, I’m not trying to change your mind, but when you say “expel the embryo” I can’t help but think you’re afraid of what you’re going to see.. for me it was just a blood clot, like a heavy period, nothing that I saw or felt that was traumatic. I felt compelled to share that.
That being said, your decision is yours and I support whatever you think is best for you!
I have to second that. Mine was like a heavy period and the cramping wasn’t too terrible either.
I bled a lot and cramped a lot. It was a terrible experience since I went through it alone.
OP, DM me if you have more questions. This sucks, but you will get through this ♥️
I had and it was painful af. I don’t think I’ve ever been in that kind of pain. Makes me tear up remembering it now 15 years later. After it’s all over you’re fine though.
Have you taken it yet and is the surgical option still on the table? If so, I've heard the surgical is much, much easier even if it seems scarier because it is a procedure.
Yep @C2...my family judges me for using birth control as a Black woman due to the illegal sterilization back in the day
Sending you lots of love and good vibes, you will get through this, you are a badass
Sending love. Take care of yourself.
Surgical option is apparently a lot easier. I could not leave my house for at least 72 hours as a result of the constant excessive bleeding and horribly pain. I was also violently ill as a result of the pain medicine unfortunately. If you are planning to travel make sure you plan to travel at least a week after. I did it alone as well.
After further research and listening to everyone’s stories, I changed the appointment to surgical this week. When I heard the pill makes you expel the embryo, I didn’t think I am emotionally strong enough to handle feeling/seeing that. thank you all again for your support through a difficult time
Here for you ❤️❤️ Hope you can take some time to sit on the sofa and eat ice cream. I don’t know if this is too close/sensitive, but I really enjoyed the movie Obvious Child- it talks about abortion in a realistic, funny way. I believe it’s streaming on Netflix. In case this would entertain or help...
How far along are you OP?
I decided on the pill versus the surgical method since I am very early on. I will take the first pill Friday and 2nd on Saturday (if they allow me to do 24 hrs after instead of 48)