Have any of you ladies managed to get over an ex after being hung up on them for years? My ex and I broke up two years ago but I still think about him every day. We live in different countries and he’s now married - I’ve tried multiple therapists, changing cities, traveling loads, throwing myself into work, dating, self help books, you name it. While the pain has become much more bearable, it’s never gone away. Will it ever?

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I think about my ex’s everyday but I don’t THINK about them. If someone had an impact on you, I think it’s natural for your brain to bring them up at some point throughout the day. But you can let that thought come and go without dwelling on it. What they’re doing and who they are now is not really relevant to me now, so I don’t let myself feel any pain or discomfort when they come up in my brain. This definitely takes some practice.

Going along with what I mentioned above, to get to that point, I try to be a little more present in the moment as the thought of them passes. I ask myself if I’m ok at that moment, if there’s anything urgently wrong, if all my basic needs are met, and if I’m comfortable. Get out of your head and focus on your physical state at that moment, and if everything is good, then nothing is really that terrible right? You’re actually okay and it’s your thoughts that are making you feel like you aren’t. After that, I normally just order some good food or if I’m feeling productive, I go work out and the time passes and I’m just happy and in full control of my mind and emotional state.

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Elevate yourself. With every breakup, I renewed my focus on a new project / goal. One day, you’ll wake up and realize you’re totally out of his league.

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Yea. Try doing something for yourself like a cool hobby, volunteer, get out there and date...

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😭 i feel this

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I promise it will go away. It took me about 2 years to get over an ex, and once it happened, I’ve never looked back.

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Tbh the only way i get over exes is once i finally hate them..

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Why is it so hard to hate them even though they are terrible?

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It is! Cause something about us didn’t pick up on Why they deserve to be hated while together and it shows in our inability to hate em after break up

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Quickest way to get over someone is to get under someone else

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tried this and did not work.

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