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Have y’all ever broken up with a good man? What compelled you to do it?

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Yes. My college boyfriend and I dated for years, broke up and got back together before and after business/med school. Marriage would have been the next logical step but it just didn’t feel 100% right. He’s great and we remain friends.

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Anyone who left a good man in your 20s but now single in your 30s or 40s think he was the one who got away/regret that decision?

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I’m in my 30s and my SO is a good man. But can’t help feel like there may be someone else for me. I do wonder if I leave him, will I regret it?

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Realized that loving someone was not the same as being in love with someone. We're both much happier now.

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He wasn’t a bad guy, he just wasn’t the guy for me. After three years, our goals and values and priorities changed in ways that were no longer compatible.

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Kind caring guy with stable job, but didn’t have the level of ambition I wanted. Clearly a consultant is a certain kind of driven person 😅

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What did he do? Did he just have no desire to move up?

Same, grew apart. I knew he was a good person, but we were no longer compatible, and as a result resentment was starting to take over the relationship.

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I (felt that I was carrying us too much emotionally because he had become timid and reserved in reaction to [rightfully] perceiving that I) was in love with someone else

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Wow, GD, that’s deep

I m really into my current BF but often feel things are moving way slower than I want. He is fully committed. That frustrates me sometimes. Such a great guy, why can't he put a ring on it already? But that's the thing, he's nice. No initiative. Too comfortable with things the way they are. And I am always impatient about the next thing. I trying to meet him halfway.

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With the exception of a high school dating mistake, all the men I dated were “good men” or I wouldn’t have stayed with them longer than a couple of dates. Even when we were mid-break-up I would still have described them as “good men”. They just weren’t the right “good man” for me long term.

Some had different wants/desires for marriage/kids. Or divergent career paths. With a couple, we weren’t stronger as a unit, we tended to bring each other down mood-wise. With some we figured out we made better friends than SOs.

Other than the high school mistake, I’m on friendly terms with all of them. Didn’t happen immediately, but we got there. A couple we at my wedding and I went to their’s—when I met their future spouses, I knew they were perfect for each other and was thrilled for both of them.

Man was great and we loved each other. But he never wanted to leave a small hometown. I wanted to travel the world. We just weren’t very compatible in the futures we wanted for ourselves.

Recently broke up with my boyfriend. He was a good man and treated and loved me so well. Love him too but we had different worldviews/political views. And we both want children but differing values affect what you teach kids

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