Have you been with someone for a few years and throughout that time he is doing his bachelor's and have never worked? Until after you're married.

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No, but hope you're not in a community property state, OP.

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Me? I wouldn’t consider marriage to someone who didn’t have a clear career goal/path they are following.

I dated someone for a few years while he was pursuing his Doctorate full time. He had financially supported himself prior to this, he had a goal, and he had a target career path.

I would not consider marrying someone that was using higher ed to avoid life. But *I* wouldn’t even date one for any length of time.

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We're not married but I'm worried about his career potential and motivation. He changed his major and will take 5-6 years to get his bachelor's by next year. Financially, we.solit everything 50/50 so I'm not paying for him.

Are you both in college together? Are you older and graduated first? Did they go back at a later age to pursue a degree?

So many questions. But I agree with others that I wouldn't want to get married at that life stage. There are some things in life you need to figure out before getting married imo. I could see if maybe this is a case of someone returning to school later in life. But even then, I would seriously question their level of responsibility for not working while doing so...

He's in his early 30s, and I'm in my late 20s, I've finished my bachelor's already. He was in the military and worked after then decided to go back to school, it's going to take 6 years by the time he graduate in 2022. We got engaged recently and the reality is .. he won't have a stable career for another 2 years and yet we want to plan to have children but I'm not sure if I'm ready to do it when he is not career ready. He have his own home and gets a good sum for being a veteran. He feels insecure that he's not working aswell.

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