Have you declined to be a bridesmaid? Why and how?

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Yes. I knew this bride was going to be spending big money. I was 22 and knew for sure I couldn’t afford it. She ended up cutting ties with me because “I didn’t have my priorities right for her one big day”

like

This stuff baffles me. I just do not understand these people.

like

Yes for money reasons (and because I was a bridesmaid in another wedding in the same season). I said it was for money reasons, we are still friends to this day and now she is invited to my wedding 6 years later.

like

Not as a bridesmaid, mainly because we have not lived in the same state for 7 years and I’m having a small wedding party.

I backed out on being a bridesmaid for a friend from high school. I hadn’t kept up with her too closely since graduating but we were still each other’s longest friends at the time so I had only met her fiancé once before and didn’t realize he was a racist prick who was trying to pimp me out to his cousin who “has yellow fever and was so excited to bang his first ABC” since they lined us up in the wedding party. I repeatedly asked him to stop and told him he was making me extremely uncomfortable which he ignored so I told her I couldn’t swing the destination wedding anymore after it was pushed back twice during the pandemic. I don’t speak to her anymore.

like

That’s terrible… I’m so sorry…

No, but I wish I would have in my early 20s. It was really a financial stretch to me, so I wish I would have said that I couldn't afford it.

like

Same!!! I felt pressured into it and regretted it every time… 8 times over. I dropped $1k MINIMUM on each wedding, not to mention tons of time and emotional energy. I wish I’d had the confidence to say no!

like

Yepppp! No regrets.

Yes. Destination wedding was too expensive for w

Yep. I had just started a new job with a lot of travel and the wedding was out of town. I didn’t think I could commit to being there when the bride wanted us to get there and since I was new on the job, I didn’t think I could ask for time off.

Related Posts

like

I raised 2 successful CEOs and a doctor. Here's the 'unpopular' parenting rule I always used on my kids - CNBC

like

Did anyone completed e-sign document after 7pm on their onboarding day. How was it resolved?

like

Any layoffs in Luxoft , will there be any difficulty for bench employees

like

Any physicians/researchers in here specializing in multiple myeloma? Working on a project and had a few questions

Whoever said employers don’t care about grades and transcripts after your first job was a liar. Every lateral position that I’ve applied to as a 3rd year has requested transcripts. Why do we lie and tell grads that employers don’t check transcripts when they do. My coworker, a 5th yr, had to submit his transcripts also to lateral job. Side note - it speaks volume when multiple associates are trying to lateral at the same time

like

Hi Fishes,

I have cleared Technical round in WNS Denali and awaiting salary discussion for Legal Profile Procurement Services Rile Band BII.

Please help me what should I expect for the profile and what is the maximum CTC company is giving to the candidates.

like

Hi, looking for advice on thoughts going JAG. I've just started my first post-law grad legal job at 100k but have previously signed a letter of intent for JAG to ship out for training next April. My thoughts were if I truly wanted to keep the current job, I have until enlistment day to fully commit. Though I have just started my new job I want to move forward keeping this thought/decision at the front of my mind. See more in comments

Seeking any advice from current or former JAGS.

This yes 100% 🙌

Post Photo
funnylikeuplifting

Currently a MS in Finance candidate. Got into the MBA program with a finance concentration at the same school - Johns Hopkins. Don’t care about target , non -target (already happy with my role, industry, firm). What’s more valuable in terms of longer term prospects between the two degrees? Any thoughts or guidance?

like

hadn't worked with a female co-worker since starting this job, recently met a mindblowing amazing person who just got promoted to manager. she loves reading, any suggestions on female leadership books

likehelpful

Guys, I got retained for 14 LPA from 9.5 LPA 1.5 yrs back..I'm now receiving offers for 20 and above. Is there any way my pakage can be raised with my current job itself(work environment here is good)?? Not sure if dropping papers and getting retained will give a nad impression on me..is there any fair way of increasing my package.

like

When does Natwest initiate employee onboarding after background verification?

Does it happen in the last week before joining?

With the merger happening between Mindtree and LnT infotech, what will be the impact on the lateral hires ? Is it a good time to join Mindtree or should we look at other options ? Mindtree

like

Hi fishes

Does Cognizant try to retain employees by matching or coming close to offer in hand of an employee who resigned?

I am on the verge of getting my certification to become a special education teacher, cold someone tell help me find a place that can help with my resume

Are rates inevitably going to drop because of COVID-19? Freelance Sr. Copywriters and Art Art Directors accepting $50hr? Freelance CDs accepting $75hr? How much strain will all of this put on rates?

like

What was your worst / most pathetic experience with recruiters (external or HR?) ?

like

7 likes and I’ll quit my job today 🤪

likefunny

Best sushi in Boston? Freshness > Fanciness

like

Additional Posts in Women In Consulting

How do you all date as consultants?! Where do you find men? Do you go on dates while traveling?

like

Somewhat Deloitte specific, but the Deloitte bowl is mean so posting here

I’m up for promotion this year, and I’ve been working so hard and my feedback is amazing and I’ve wanted this for awhile. Now, an immediate relative is actively dying and I may go out on a short leave, and I also have some PTO planned so that I can visit family oversees later this fall. With all that’s happening, I’m not going to hit my 90% utilization target, which is a checkbox in my promo. (cont).

likehelpful

Made a rookie mistake today. I brought a water bottle that flips up into a straw on the plane. That thing squirted all over me and now I’m drenched.

likefunny

Ladies, what are your go-to sandals for big city walking (like NYC)? Need something cute, slightly heeled, but comfortable that stay clean enough...and don’t know if anything like that exists 👀

like

Advice from any moms or child care takers.
My niece is in fourth grade and she opened up to me about having body issues and afraid of bullying at school. She told me that she is friends with a girl that is chubbier and is from a single parent household and that kids in her class make fun of her for it. She thinks that if she is chubby other kids will make fun of her, too. She has a belly (but she’s in 4th grade ffs!!). She told me that she feels really self conscious and wants to have a (cont).

like

What’s a good way to get your personal data scrubbed off the internet?

like

Thoughts on dating while living at your parents house during covid? I feel like I have to tell my parents who I’m seeing, but feel so uncomfortable divulging things about my dating life before it’s anything serious. Haven’t tried FaceTime dates due to feeling a lack of privacy. Any suggestions on how to make it work?

like

In need of some positivity…what’s one thing you’re looking forward to?

like

Anyone willing to post their home office? I’m looking to revamp mine

like

At Accenture changing from internal analyst role to a senior analyst in digital & client facing.I am always worried about being a female and salary. What should I negotiate and expect for pay?

like

Does it mean anything if your HR consultant randomly adds you on LinkedIn? I’ve never even met her in person or talked to her over the phone. I’m probably overthinking but just curious. Thanks!

Has anyone taken the sphr exam?

like

Is it me or does jcrew and madewell running big now?

like

I want to upgrade my rolling luggage - recommendations?

like

Devastated...breaking up w SA after 4 years together right as I thought we were planning for marriage..hate the monster dating game

Ladies,

Anyone willing to provide a referral for BCG and Bain?

About to submit applications within the next week or so.

Thanks!

like

I feel angry and bitter at everything when I am going through a tough time including snap at my family who are well meaning. How do you cope with a bad patch. How do you stay strong mentally when life is hard or unfair?

like

Feeling discouraged about my career path. A year into this job and I feel like I’ve taken a step down in terms of growth and responsibility from my last job. I used to be in a position where (cont...)

like

I’m dating someone new and it is going very well. He is kind, not high strung, with great values and shares my sense of humor. It is so easy and natural to spend multiple days with him.
Still I am having doubts because I think he isn’t very “intellectual”. To be clear, he’s intelligent! He is a great STEM role that requires an advanced degree. We share a love of reading as well. However he is not really interested in world affairs, does not follow the news closely, does not have a strong grasp

likehelpful

Lead for project asked me how much have I worked with coworker on certain training, and I said only a little. Lead then said that coworker claims no one has helped him and lead said he is afraid(cont)

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Send download link to your phone

OR

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Messaging rates may apply

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal