Have you ever gotten really mad at your SO over a small thing and later realized you were being really silly? I don't know if I'm weird or unhealthy or this happens to people.

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It happens to everyone! Just be mindful of two things, 1. How often is it happening, is it often enough to become an issue? 2. Is it actually silly or are you convincing yourself that it's silly

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Good point. Glad to know I'm not alone doing this and that it happens. you're right, I definitely try to keep it under control and not let the frustration get out of hand

Has happened to me! Usually I’m just in a bad mood in general and I let it affect my feelings toward my SO. Honestly I’ve noticed it more when I’m PMS-ing haha. No easy solution other than if you’re feeling really upset/angry, take a step back and think about how you’d want your SO to react if the situation was reversed. Usually I want patience and kindness 😊. That tends to help me snap out of whatever funk I’m in

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Yes I do it when I'm in a bad mood too. Yes same here! haha when I'm PMS-ing it happens more often. Glad to know I'm not alone. I do have a voice at the back of my head telling me I should calm down and not get mad at him but it happens anyways sometimes. Other times I'm able to calm myself down

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This happens to me. Even if the moment has passed, still worthwhile to own up and admit you were wrong.

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Definitely! I've always apologized for when I've gotten mad and it was my fault

Happened to me when I was on the pill!

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Haha this last time was when I got off the pill

I’ve gotten really good at recognizing it in the moment. Even if I’m crying or upset, I’m very clear that “it’s not you, I’m just overly upset and I understand I’m not being reasonable.”

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That's good. I should do that too, make sure to verbalize that it's me being upset and worked up over something rather than him being in the wrong necessarily

It happens, but it usually is related to an underlying issue. My long term bf and I almost broke up over me not cutting up some watermelon I said I would. Sounds crazy right? Back story: I have a tendency to leave wiggle room like “I think I’m going to do x” or “I should be leaving the event early” which in my mind is not a firm commitment, but is to him. There’s some other stuff around the circumstances of why, but that’s the underlying cause of the hurt.

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I think reframing it. If you’re upset, it’s not silly. It is silly, however, to not get down to root causes and accept the status quo.

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