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What’s the best way to get a FWB?
Ew.
Yes. Run. Don’t break your own heart
Pro
Absolutely a 🚩
Rising Star
Oh, you’re welcome and no thanks needed - we need to look out for each other, don’t we? 🤗 It is hard. As women, we’ve been subtly conditioned to feel like we are responsible for the sexual behavior of men, and that if they push our boundaries, it’s because we’ve misled them, so shame on us. You did everything right in this situation. You communicated a boundary up front and stuck to it. You should be proud of that! His emotional response to your boundary is NOT your problem.
I don’t know how old you are/how long you’ve been dating, but I suspect you’ll find that this all gets easier, and you will learn to recognize red flags sooner. It’s tough for everyone - it has nothing to do with you being bad at this.
Totally just drop him. Not worth it. Can’t respect boundaries and that’s not worth your time, you deserve better!
Chief
Yeah, he got pissed off and called me a prude. Whatever.
Chief
That… is a good way of putting it
I was told before by a guy that guys dont really think u mean that when u say it if u r at their home/your home making out etc.. But my expectation is the same as yours- I laid it out and expect the guy to respect the boundary. But I did keep this in mind. After many years, my expectation is the same but I know in the back of my mind they are going to try things. However, I gauge their reaction to me sticking to my boundaries- anything less than respect (hey sorry I got carried away in the moment , etc) as a red flag and I am done.
Chief
Have you had this experience with every guy?? I have a lot of guy friends who would never be like this so I guess I’m trying to find someone as respectful as my own social circle