Have you ever wondered if you were actually the “villain” in a break up? I had a chat with my ex today, and while I still recognize that he had his issues, I wonder if I had done him wrong more than vice verse.

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this is called maturity 🥰 good for you for realizing what you could've done better

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I definitely have been.

When we're lost in our own challenges, we don't always view our actions through the lens of someone else. Why would we? Being the protagonist of *your* story by default means you risk being the antagonist in someone else's.

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I haven't because there were obvious reasons why the guy was in there wrong in prior relationships (cheating or verbal abuse), but I agree with A1 that knowing none of us are perfect and things aren't truly black and white is a sign of maturity 👍.

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