Have you experienced gender discrimination with the Client and/or Internally? How did you feel discriminated against and how did you handle it?

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Just got off phone with someone who reports to me. I followed up on a task I had assigned to him 2 days ago and he said I am pushing too much and he can handle it and he did not say this in a friendly way. At first I thought I’ll let it go but then told him this is my management style and if he doesn’t like it, maybe this role is not for him.. even dropped him minutes of meeting in case he wants to take it to the HR..

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@OP, you might have been a scape goat in the situation you are describing. A lot happened when you went on vacation literally....defending yourself will end up looking like you are being defensive...my opinion. It could be time to move on to other projects. As for the rest of the stuff you described talk to your diversity people and hear there take on it.

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Internally
Not from my peers
Not from my bosses but mostly with people who report to me . One of my staff told me he doesn’t want to work with me as I may take long leaves (example maternity leave ) and may not be able to mentor or sponsor him . I still don’t know how to handle it or change this bias.

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With a Client.
I was told that I would not have the right knowledge for 1) I joined the project only a month ago 2) <hinted> you don't know anything technical, period. Cause you're a lady.
I work as a technical strategist and I was asking him to provide me with a technical piece of information required by the application I consult for.
Sadly it was a 1-on-1 call. So couldn't report. But soon after invited him to a meeting with my boses and as expected he didn't give any respect to me in that meeting which was visible by all. That worked rather than having to complain to my boses and prove myself etc.

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On a automotive client. They definitely have more respect to other consultants who are male though younger / less experienced than I.

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Has happened internally. It's usually analysts and associates questioning me, when I know they don't do the same to males at the same level as me. Also, a lot of dinners by myself when onsite since there's a lot of guys night out only events.

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I was removed from a project the week after I told them I was pregnant (was only about 12 weeks). I went to a Director I had talked to before and trusted. At least made me feel heard and helped me find a great next project. To be honest, the reason I stayed with the firm. The whole situation sucked, and my year end and compensation were terrible the next year.

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All the time. I let my work speak for me. My male peers always underestimate a smart woman and that’s my biggest asset. I’ve made a great living by following my own path to success. I don’t present myself as a woman I present myself as a professional who is best qualified for the job.

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I had a Director/PM take me off of a project ‘s second week of a sprint because I went on vacation, that he approved, for the first week. So my utilization was penalized essentially because I went on vacation. He also said that I hadn’t completed the tasks assigned to me prior to vacation - there were about 4 of them that were dependent on others. I could have easily done in the second week of the sprint. I also got feedback that I did not communicate well, however I had asked for some sort of change log and was told that we were moving too fast to manage a change log. I made a change to a workflow in a sandbox, as I had been instructed, that ‘broke’ another workflow. So even though I was not aware of this other workflow, and it was fixed within 5 minutes of identifying there was an issue, I was the one to not communicate.

Now this is on my HR file.

I feel like there was some retribution of some sort. It was the Director and a green developer who were leading he project. I had to ask the Developer to drive more thoughtfully (he rented a Dodge Charger and would literally fishtail and peel out when doing a U-turn). Essentially, I didn’t feel part of ‘the boys club’ - I heard phrases like “don’t worry about it”, “that is a you problem”, “the client likes me the best”, “that’s not how we are doing things”, “We are taking the 530 am flight even though we will get to the client 5 hours before they asked us to be there (so you can’t put your kids on the school bus), “hahaha, the meeting isn’t really until 2 (even though I told you it was at 10)”. etc.

Do I bring this to HR myself? I never made it an issue because I don’t want to make a bigger deal of it than it needs to be, but if it’s going to be on my file and if I’m going to be perceived as a bad manager, I want to defend myself. But at what point do you just take the feedback and shut up about it? I’ve worked with Asshats but never to this level.

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Was working in Saudi Arabia and the client asked us to “temporarily” sit separated by gender (all male client, all male project team except for me and another junior female, seating was suppose to be back to normal after a week but we knew it would take over a month), the firm didn’t push back directly and allowed it to happen for two weeks before they scraped together what little courage they had to push back... makes me so angry now just typing it. My SM was actually clueless as to why I felt it would put me at a disadvantage to not have access to anyone from the team or client as much as my male peers

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