Having a hard time letting go of my despise for the people contributing to me getting transitioned out of my firm (backstabbers, non-supportive in difficult personal situations, almost “cruel” people in a way, threatening). Found a new job, which I am looking forward to starting soon, so I know I should let it go. But still would feel right for me somehow/I am torn to let them know subtly how despicable I found their behavior when I would have needed support most (personal situation)..

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Karma is a beautiful thing. Just move forward and try to put it out of your mind. You’ll see it for what it was soon- ego, incompetence and politics- and feel sorry for them that that is who they are as people. It’s a shame but it’s happened to me too.

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They know what they did. And chances are anything you say will not change their mind as to the actions they took. Take the high ground!

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I’m so sorry that you had a terrible experience. When things like this have happened to me in the past I always feel like I need to rationalise them by being a better example. Know that you will get through it and be a stronger, better, kinder leader. They have hurt you once, don’t let them keep hurting you by obsessing over a past that is past - think ahead.

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World isn’t fair, people are hurtful. It just is. It’s true the best revenge is to excel and make sure that when you’re in a leadership position, you don’t treat people the way you were treated.

I get that it’s hard but I’ve been in your shoes. Multiple times. And of course I can acknowledge my faults or shortcomings in those situations too

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