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Having a kid. Is it still ok to bring them up with gender stereotypes? I mean, clearly I want them to do any job they aspire to, but will I be a bad parent if I dress the girl up in pink and boy blue?

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Kind of worried about this kid...

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I hate the idea of forcing kids to be a certain way because of their gender but sometimes the parents I see who try the hardest not to do so accidentally send the message to their daughters that anything traditionally girly is bad. I think the key is balance and letting your kid go through lots of phases on the path to figuring out who they are. Dress your daughter in pink and blue and purple and green. Buy her dolls and cars and kitchen stuff and science kits to play with. Let her go through a tomboy phase and then a wearing a pink tutu everywhere phase. Make sure you allow your daughter to explore her daredevil side just as much as your son and encourage leadership and independence in the same way. Encourage your son to play with cars and dolls and kitchen and science stuff as well. And be chill when he goes through a phase where he wants everything to be sparkly or purple and then cool when he's suddenly into sports. Make sure you allow him to show just as much emotion as you allow your daughters and be just as gentle as kind with him. If you love them, support them, and do your best to maintain balance then your kids are going to figure out their own way regardless and are probably going to be just fine.

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Do NOT throw a gender reveal party. How dare you "choose" your child's gender for them!

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No way brah... Don't forget to get consent before breastfeed

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Well as long as you prevent your daughter from reading and have her confined to the kitchen, then you will have raised her with the right stereotypes #makesandwichesgreatagain

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It's your child lol. You do not have to dress a boy in pink to be open minded. Raise your kids they you think is best they are your children.

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My parents dressed me up in blue and never pink and I turned out okay. Blue ended up being my favorite color anyway lol

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Booz dropping the wisdom!

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No. Colors don't matter much but be careful of the stereotypes.

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My parents were very progressive for square, non-hippy types in the mid-to-late 70s. For the most part, I got to pick out my clothes when I was old enough with the exception of holiday dresses. I went though an overall and train engineer cap phase at 4. When it came to toys, I received both boy and girl toys. Of course, when I received my first Barbie I was hooked -- although, I had and played video games, puzzles and books. Barbie was my favorite. My parents said I could do it be anything I wanted. They also encouraged my interest in the space program and outer space. Really, I remember the gender stereotypes coming from other children or adults, i.e. Girls can only be nurses or teachers. I think if you follow a similar approach, your child(ten) will be fine.

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Also, why is color really relevant here? Pick colors for your kid until they pick their own

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Kid will be who they are and choose whether they like pink, blue or both. Don't worry about it too much.

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Do what you want, just don't force them if they end up not liking pink tutus and blue trucks.

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Just pop them out without thinking so hard!!! Geez.

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OP, do what you think best, safe in the knowledge that no matter what you do, there's a whole industry out there dedicated to telling you that you have done it wrong so they can sell you stuff.

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And a whole community of mommy bloggers and parenting pages, etc. that agree there's no one right way of parenting - but your way of parenting is wrong.

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Amen M2.

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I don't know. You're probably overthinking it.

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